Setting goals and a theme for 2021

I don’t like making New Year’s resolutions, because those always seem to have something to do…

Almost 10 years of D/s… our journey

When I wrote the title, I could hardly believe it. Almost 10 years? I searched my…

Longing for control, peace and quiet

Back in 2015 I wrote a post called ‘I want‘ and on re-reading it now, five…

Aftercare… how do we do it?

The first thing I do nowadays when I write about any BDSM-related topic, is to see…

Spanking, and other impact play

Impact play is a term encompassing many different kinds of practices where one person is struck…

My desire for his desire

The desire of the man is for the woman, but the desire of the woman is…

Blindfolds again, and a bit about hoods

I first wrote about blindfolds back in April 2013, and decided to revisit the post and…

Flogging, a reprise

This post was first shared in July 2013, and I thought it was time to update…

Sex, intimacy and love… one can’t exist without the other?

Almost a year ago, I wrote Death of Sexual Desire in which I talked about the…

Suck & swallow, on repeat

This post was first shared in 2012, and always when I see the title, I remember…

Limits, but not only in D/s

The last time I wrote about limits was in August 2019, and nothing much have changed…

Comfortably nude

I grew up with a mom who lay out in our backyard in the sun, naked.…

The Gaze in Sex

“In a world ordered by sexual imbalance, pleasure in looking has been split between active/male and…

The labels that describe me

Whether you love or hate labels, we all need them to some degree to understand ourselves…

Writing, blogging and journaling

This Tell Me About prompt couldn’t have come at a better time since I, just like…

Evolving photography

I have written about photography a couple of times before: Photographer and ModelEver since I have…

Brats and Discipline

Master T is not really into discipline, while I would love for him to discipline me…

A Perfect Balance

Sex should be a perfect balance of pain and pleasure. Without that symmetry, sex becomes a…

Am I a service sub?

I have never thought of myself as a service sub, but recently I have come to…

Lock-down Logs

Sunday, 16 March 2020. Sat on the couch in the Holiday Inn in Camden, I kept…

Respect = Love

Respect… I feel it’s one of those words that people tend to throw around, without really…

Mutual dependence

Codepencency… excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically a partner who requires support due…

No Barriers

Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination…

Craving Pain

Pain… it’s something I fear, and at the same time, something I miss. Not the emotional…