Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)? What is your opinion of the use of title in general?

I don’t have an official title, neither has my Husband as my Dom. However, He does call me slut and whore. Whenever we are playing, I have to repeat that I am a horny slut or that I am a whore and I want to be treated as one. He would never say something like ... continue reading

Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?

I have never specifically dressed for any kind of play. Oh, there were the occasional evening that I dressed in one of my kinky dresses, or my sexy shorts. Or that I wore stockings and high heels with some sexy lingerie. But it never specifically was for our kink/BDSM play. Nowadays, when we play, I ... continue reading

Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?

This is something I have never thought about before. There are so many things that I am interested in, but if they have found their way into my kinky activities… well I just don’t know. Actually, thinking about it now, yes there is one non-kink interest that has definitely found its way into my kinky ... continue reading

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

I know that there has been a question earlier in this series about things you do not understand regarding BDSM/link or things you are curious about. I specifically did not mention online BDSM play, since I knew this question was coming up. And yes, indeed, when I started with these series of questions, I did ... continue reading

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?

Oh yes, my interest and perspective have definitely changed. How? I. Want. More. Whenever I read or see how other people live their kinky lifestyles, I feel the need in me for more. I have written blog posts about this before, about how I have my own vision clouded by reading what other people do. ... continue reading

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

In alphabetical order: communication, honesty and respect and trust. In my opinion these four things are all equally important in a relationship. It does not matter whether it’s a BDSM relationship or a vanilla relationship though. Also, communication, honesty, respect and trust are inseparable from each other. They are totally intertwined. If there are no ... continue reading

Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)

I love to read. I love books. I love a good plot. In my life I have read quite a lot of books, but very little books that where BDSM related. However, there is one of the few I have read that certainly is my favorite. Found on wikipedia: Published in French by Jean-Jacques Pauvert, ... continue reading

Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand

Again I want to start off by saying that I respect everyone for the way they live their lives and the choices they have made. I have no critique at all on anyone! Still, there are things in kink/bdsm that I do not understand or am curious about. First of all: 24/7 D/s relationships. I ... continue reading

Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?

The first thing that springs to mind is that kink unexpectedly became a big part of our lives. It was always there – slumbering – but neither of us acted on it. We did have our playful moments, where kinky stuff were done, but it was not an outspoken part of our lives. Then came ... continue reading