Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)? What is your opinion of the use of title in general?

I don’t have an official title, neither has my Husband as my Dom. However, He does call me slut and whore. Whenever we are playing, I have to repeat that I am a horny slut or that I am a whore and I want to be treated as one. He would never say something like ... continue reading

Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?

I have never specifically dressed for any kind of play. Oh, there were the occasional evening that I dressed in one of my kinky dresses, or my sexy shorts. Or that I wore stockings and high heels with some sexy lingerie. But it never specifically was for our kink/BDSM play. Nowadays, when we play, I ... continue reading

Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?

This is something I have never thought about before. There are so many things that I am interested in, but if they have found their way into my kinky activities… well I just don’t know. Actually, thinking about it now, yes there is one non-kink interest that has definitely found its way into my kinky ... continue reading

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

I know that there has been a question earlier in this series about things you do not understand regarding BDSM/link or things you are curious about. I specifically did not mention online BDSM play, since I knew this question was coming up. And yes, indeed, when I started with these series of questions, I did ... continue reading

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?

Oh yes, my interest and perspective have definitely changed. How? I. Want. More. Whenever I read or see how other people live their kinky lifestyles, I feel the need in me for more. I have written blog posts about this before, about how I have my own vision clouded by reading what other people do. ... continue reading

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

In alphabetical order: communication, honesty and respect and trust. In my opinion these four things are all equally important in a relationship. It does not matter whether it’s a BDSM relationship or a vanilla relationship though. Also, communication, honesty, respect and trust are inseparable from each other. They are totally intertwined. If there are no ... continue reading

Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)

I love to read. I love books. I love a good plot. In my life I have read quite a lot of books, but very little books that where BDSM related. However, there is one of the few I have read that certainly is my favorite. Found on wikipedia: Published in French by Jean-Jacques Pauvert, ... continue reading