Predicting the future

Here in the Netherlands there’s a running joke that the weather people can’t see two days…

Planner and overthinker

I am a planner. I’ve always been and probably always will be a planner. It’s both…

Desire, pleasure, want and need

I tilt my head back, my eyes closed but hidden behind my sunglasses, and cherish the…

Social media, a love-hate relationship

In the past year I have developed a love-hate relationship with social media. It wasn’t always…

Life happens, love binds

People say to me: “I don’t know how you manage with all that’s happening in your…

Patience is a virtue

The word patience always makes me smile. I am not a very patient person. When it’s…

Reading done differently

Back when my mom got ill, I was reading the second book of The Story of…

Your truth is not my truth, nor a lie

Back when we had the virtual Christmas party for The SafeworD/s Club, we played the game…

Exposed, in more way than one

When I first saw this 4Thoughts prompt, it instantly reminded me writing about being exposed, because…

The history of my pseudonym

I wrote about my pseudonym for the first time in 2012, and again in the post,…

Spring is coming!

Last weekend when I looked out the window, the world around us was white, covered in…

On being positive about my body, but…

I have posted many an image of myself, in various poses, combined with positive words about…

Bad habits… is that really what they are?

In the introduction of the post where I stated my goals for 2021, I touched on…

Six things for advent

You might have noticed that I am participating in The SWC Kinky Community Advent Calendar. I…

F*ck 2020, but I’m thankful too

F*ck 2020. Just fuck 2020. There, I said it. I’m upset as I write this. Upset.…

Trust as default

My default is trust. Scratch that. My default was trust. It’s actually quite sad that due…

Lest we forget!

God of our fathers, known of old,Lord of our far-flung battle line,Beneath whose awful hand we…

My desire for his desire

The desire of the man is for the woman, but the desire of the woman is…

Sex, intimacy and love… one can’t exist without the other?

Almost a year ago, I wrote Death of Sexual Desire in which I talked about the…

Kink vs Fetish, what are my thoughts?

Somehow I have never stopped to think about the difference between a kink and a fetish,…

Limits, but not only in D/s

The last time I wrote about limits was in August 2019, and nothing much have changed…

Liberty, and then some!

Liberty is the right to choose.Freedom is the result of the right choice. — Jules Renard…

Finding inspiration everywhere

In a recent post I have mentioned how some doors have closed for me, and how…

The Gaze in Sex

“In a world ordered by sexual imbalance, pleasure in looking has been split between active/male and…