These questions will all be about sex in some way and will be the sorts of questions that get a the core of a person’s desires, fears, and experiences. The sorts of questions that could really help you get to know another person.~ Brigit Delaney
I think these questions serves not only to let you get to know the other person, but also to get you to think about your own preferences, desires, and dislikes.
Question 6: What are your thoughts on foreplay? Favorite types? Best experiences? Wishes?
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, foreplay is erotic stimulation preceding sexual intercourse, and according to dictionary dot com it’s sexual stimulation of one’s partner, usually as a prelude to sexual intercourse. But, what is equally important to know is the purpose of foreplay.
The purpose of foreplay is to add sexual excitement, and, especially for women, to help prepare the body for intercourse by increasing vaginal lubrication.~ Planned Parenthood
Giving and receiving
I love foreplay, both giving and receiving. Besides its mental and physical benefits, to me foreplay is more about the connection that’s being made. Touching each other, kissing, just being together and let it slowly build to something more makes me feel at ease, and allows me to get ready for the next step in my own time.
But it’s not only about receiving, it’s also about giving. Seeing the other enjoying it too, relaxing, and also their need building, is a magical thing. I think I can even go so far as to say that sometimes I prefer only foreplay, with no sex following, simply because the connection already gives me enough satisfaction. But of course, mostly foreplay leads to that point of no return.
Good foreplay, in my opinion, makes the sex even better.
My favorite type of foreplay
The type of foreplay I like the most, is what starts during the day. A kiss here, a look there. A hug that lasts just that bit longer, and where hands roam to cup a bottom, or squeeze a breast. Add sexy words to that, promises of sexy times, or a simple question ‘shall we go to bed on time tonight’, and my juices will already start flowing. This type of foreplay changes the air around me, makes me feel light and sexy and wanted, and even if the sex never happens, it makes for a very happy day.
Following a day like this, I love if we’re in bed and we take our time for each other there too. Not just jump in and go for the first orgasm, but more kissing and fondling, until you can do nothing else but give into the sexual need, and work towards all those orgasms.
Of course foreplay can’t always be like this. Sometimes I like it when Master T just ‘jumps in’ and get me to those orgasms, but mostly I prefer a bit of warm-up, and then kissing and some fondling, to just make the connection, can be more than enough.
Foreplay in menopause
As taken from the quote above, foreplay is also to increase the vaginal lubrication, and this, when in menopause is even more important. If I am not wet enough, and Master T fingers me to several orgasms, by the fifth or sixth the tender flesh of my pussy will start hurting. It’s a burning sensation, and the more he fingers me then, the more it will hurt. The skin is irritated, and it can even last days before the discomfort is gone.
This reminds me that I need to buy lube. Several times in the past months I have said that I should start using lube, not only when Master T and I are having sex, but also when I masturbate. I need to help my body a bit, since the lubrication is in no way the same as it was before.
And even when I do use lube, I will still want the foreplay!
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