Thoughts about porn

An image with hands holding a mobile phone on which porn can be seen, to go with my post about my porn thoughts.

I am joining in with others – Mrs Jones and Marriage Sex and More – to answer Brigit Delaney’s 30 Dirty Questions. As Brigit said:

These questions will all be about sex in some way and will be the sorts of questions that get a the core of a person’s desires, fears, and experiences. The sorts of questions that could really help you get to know another person.

~ Brigit Delaney

I think these questions serves not only to let you get to know the other person, but also to get you to think about your own preferences, desires, and dislikes.


Question 5: What are your thoughts about porn?

Unlike with masturbation, I knew for sure that I have written about porn before, in a post about my porn habits. For this post I might have some more thoughts to add, as it comes (pun attended) to porn from a different angle.

Irritation at thoughts of porn

Sometimes I feel irritation at the thought of watching porn. Not because of the porn itself though, but because of my own insecurities.

Many times Master T and I had put porn on the television, and then got busy with each other, not even looking at what’s on the screen. The porn was never there to get us in the mood, but simply an addition to make things even sexier and hotter.

However, my mindset need to be right. If I am feeling even just a bit low, the porn or even just the idea of watching porn will irritate me. Sometimes I might be able to suppress the irritation, other times not.

What happens is that there is that monster in my head which then tells me I am not good enough, and that’s why there should be porn on television so he can get in the mood and at least wants to touch me. These thoughts are totally unnecessary, because I know fully well Master T wants me, no matter what, but as I said, when I am low, those thoughts take over and give the monster all the room to make me feel irritation, and almost ruin a sexy night.

Fun while watching porn

Sometimes right after Master T had put porn on television, we would watch for a few moments, and in those moments see things that are just not sexy. We tended to make fun of it, and that was always a good thing, because otherwise it would’ve killed the mood.

On nights like that we always watched more of the movie than other nights, as we kept an eye on the progress on the screen, and laughed about it some more when whatever scene went on and on and on and became utterly boring, even when not watching! It was obviously not what the porn makers had in mind, but we definitely had fun with it.

Full porn movies

I have never watched full porn movies. The closest I came to that was watching The Story of O (), but that’s an erotic movie, not porn. I prefer to watch porn clips, and frequently find myself jumping to the juicy bits. I am not always interested in the storyline. The context is enough for me, such as ‘doctor examines his patient’ or ‘she gets an erotic massage’ or ‘exploring anal sex’. As long as I have the context, my mind fills in the rest of the details seeing the images on the screen. I barely ever have the sound on.

Porn is an aid

In our relationship, and actually throughout my life, porn has been an aid, and not a goal as such. i have never sat down and decided: tonight I am going to watch a porn movie. We also never decide beforehand that when we go to bed and if we are going to have sex, we will watch porn too. No, it’s always a spur of the moment thing, and only used to enhance the mood, rather than to create it.

A life without porn

It’s a question that just popped into my head: can I live without porn? In other words, what if I never see a porn clip again?

I don’t think I will miss it. It helps to spice things up, but there are many more ways than only porn to spice things up, and frankly, if you need porn to get you in the mood to have sex with your partner, I think you should take a long hard look at your relationship.

I know Master T thinks the same about this, that we don’t need porn in order to feel the heat for each other, which is why I never believe those monsters in my head!

If you want to read more porn thoughts from me, read these posts, some from quite some years ago:

© Rebel’s Notes
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9 thoughts on “Thoughts about porn

  1. I totally get what you are saying about the monster. Mr Jones and I don’t watch porn together. Neither of us find it that interesting. When I have been with others, most recently Second Mate, and they have put on porn I have felt as if I became irrelevant.

  2. Un poco de porno es bueno.
    A mi me gusta el porno kinky.
    A mi esposa también.
    A veces nos sirbe para subir la libido.

  3. Amateur porn is the best for me. These days I don’t watch too much. We record a bit of our own which is much more fun than watching. I do enjoy going back and watching what we recorded, it’s hot to watch us and remember what everything felt like. The moments. You’d think after all these years I would not find watching us interesting, but I do…

    1. I know, it can be very nice to watch yourself afterwards, but I find it difficult, as all I see are my flaws and how silly I look. I think I have a lot still to learn in that department…

  4. I think porn is definitely more of a male interest. Most professional porn doesn’t do much for me, the amateur kind with people who love making it and sharing it is the best by far! Giving them positive feedback is also great, not just isolated watching. It helps out both parties with feeling the sexiness!

    1. I think that’s a kind of ‘visual blogging’, right? Just like here, comments keep us going, the interactions is nice, and I think that’s the same for those that make amateur porn.

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