Impact play is a term encompassing many different kinds of practices where one person is struck by the other and both of them derive satisfaction from it. Some practices that fall under the heading of impact play are spanking, flogging, caning, paddling, and whipping.
This post has first been shared in March 2013, when our D/s relationship was only just two years old, and we were both still discovering what we like and prefer. Since we are now going for almost 10 years of D/s (even though it has been low for quite some time due to health issues), it’s time to look at this post again and see what place impact play has in our relationship.
Impact play, a fantasy
In 2013 this was my fantasy:
I look up and find him looking at me. There’s a glint in his eyes to which my body instantly reacts. He holds my gaze for what feels like minutes. The only movement he makes is beckoning me with his finger. I stand up, walk to him and wait. He takes my hand and pulls me down, guiding me towards his lap. My head rests on the couch next to him. He pushes my skirt up, baring my backside.
Slowly he runs his hand over my buttocks, touching me softly. My muscles tense, but the first smack still comes unexpectedly, just as I relax my muscles. I tense again. More smacks rain down on my bottom. I feel the sting of his flesh on mine and then the soft touch as He caresses my bottom again. I sigh happily as the spanking continues, fight the hurt, feel his soft touch, feel the hurt again, fight it more and then surrender… I am his to be used as he wants.
We were limited back then because of having two kids living in the house with us, but in the meantime one has moved out, and the other is here only half of the week. This gives us all the freedom we have during weekends, especially now that Master T’s health is so much better, and his desire to ‘hurt’ me is returning.
I grew up in a time when corporal punishment in schools and at home were still generally accepted. I hated being spanked by my father, and in school I hated being punished in school, as the girls had to hold out their hands and were then hit with a ruler.
In my adult life, the first time I was spanked again, was by Master T. You should think I would’ve hated it, seeing my childhood experiences with corporal punishment, but I loved it. I wanted more. I wanted the spankings to last much longer and not only be a dozen or so slaps on my backside, but a hand spanking wasn’t really Master T’s thing.
The first time I had a proper spanking in a D/s setting was during one of our play dates. I had two proper spankings that weekend and I loved both. During the second one I managed to relax and just accept the blows heating up my backside. I would love to repeat the experience, but then with Master T, even though he’s still not into longer spanking sessions.
I love being spanked; love feeling the sting on my buttocks. I love how my body fight it at first; how my mind fight it. How I doubt whether I can handle it, and try to get away from the sting while at the same time I want it. I like to feel the excitement build in my body, and the wetness between my legs. The feeling of surrender when I finally accept and allow the pain is almost overwhelming, and sends my mind and body to a place where I can only be.
Implements for impact play
Of course there’s more than only spanking for impact play. Like I said above, different implements can be used. Over the years we have acquired several whips, floggers, paddles, crops and canes.
Of course we each have our favorites. Master T loves using the cane, while I fear its sting, but love the marks it can leave. Another one of Master T’s favorites is the dragon tail. I happen to love it too, even though the ‘tongue’ can sting almost as much as the cane. I love being flogged with a heavy, ‘thuddy’ flogger, like the kangaroo skin flogger Master T bought some years ago. He has several other floggers too, and most of them are lovely to use for impact play, as it can start slow and be built up the more my bottom is warmed up.
Many times Master T and I are on one line with things, and this also goes for not being that fond of paddles. While we have quite a couple, Master T very rarely reaches for one. Except the vampire paddle, though we both prefer the vampire glove. If you don’t like to break the skin, this is definitely not an implement you should use.
Impact play in our future
It’s been some time since we have really engaged in impact play. Master T has told me his interest to engage in some play is returning, but I know I have to be patient. The fact that his interest is returning, doesn’t mean he instantly pulls out all implements and start hitting me. I wish! The last time he marked me I thought we were back, and it then turned out we weren’t, so I am not rushing anything.
There is something intimate about skin on skin, the feeling of surrender, the feeling of being used, knowing that my skin turns red. I love being hand spanked, but I know this is not really Master T’s thing. Also, over the years I have learned that it’s not my thing to stand and bend over so he can cane-whip-paddle-flog me. I prefer to be secured to something like a St. Andrew’s Cross, or to lie on the bed, or over someone’s lap, so my body is supported. That’s the only way I can ‘relax’ enough to finally surrender to the pain and take more.
The marks of impact play
It’s not only the impact play itself that I like, but also the aftermath. Seeing the marks on my body, whether it’s only the red blush after a spanking or flogging, or the angry red marks of a cane or a dragon tail, makes me feel proud.
Those marks are evident of my submission to my husband, but also of what my body has been pushed to do, and my mind to accept. The natural response of the body is to get away from pain, but with impact play and submission you want to feel the pain, and you want to be able to handle it. Seeing those marks are evidence that you have managed that.
I know we will return to this, that he will mark me again, and I will stand in front of the mirror, proudly poking my marks or bend myself in all kinds of positions to take a picture. And who knows, when we return to impact play, I might even ask for the cane again.
To us both impact play is a important part of our D/s. The pain connects us in ways that only he and I understand. He wants to hear my moans, and I want to feel the sting. I want to feel my body fight, and then experience the freedom of surrender. Also, I want to feel the warmth of my bottom when he’s done. And then, when we are done, I want to feel his arms around me and hear the words: good girl.
© Rebel’s Notes