I first wrote about blindfolds back in April 2013, and decided to revisit the post and see whether my thoughts and feelings are still the same as they were back then, like I have also done when I recently wrote about flogging.
Back then I started with a quote:
Someone once described the use of blindfolds to me as “BDSM-lite” and claimed that since everyone has tried them at least once, he doesn’t even really classify them as “kinky” play. Would you agree with that? Why or why not?~ Jade Melisande
I can see how someone could think that blindfolds should be classified as BDSM-lite, but I don’t agree with this. If you look only at a blindfold, then yes, that can be classified as ‘lite’. However, a blindfold is not used as a standalone item, unless of course you use it while you sleep. A blindfold, in my opinion, is used to make the submissive aware of only one thing: the Dominant. It intensifies the dynamic between them.
I still stand by what I have said here. Unless you use the blindfold when you go to sleep, it is used to enhance the scene, to make the submissive more aware of all their sensations.
The blindfold we’re still using is quite a basic one. It has an elastic band and thin, almost slippery piece of cloth that covers my eyes. The part that covers my eyes is actually a bit too big, which makes it slip down some and even though it’s thin, it tends to block my nose. I don’t like this. We need a new blindfold, but this is something I do not want to order online. I would much rather go to an erotic shop with Master T and choose a proper blindfold by fitting it and feeling the material.
There are quite a number of different blindfolds out there: leather blindfolds that are lined with fleece or fur, satin blindfolds, blindfolds with elastic or blindfolds with Velcro closures. Some people prefer a full face mask or even an upper face mask to a blindfold, but I would totally panic if I had to wear one of those. I feel very panicked when my nose is covered. I have to be able to breathe freely. This is one of the reasons why I want to replace the blindfold that we have now.
In the meantime we have (thankfully) acquired a new blindfold. One with leather on the outside, and a fleece-y inside that fits tightly against my eyes. Where with the slippery one we once used, I could more or less squint and see the floor from under it, this new one forces me to retreat into blackness, as it shuts out the outside world completely.
I love being blindfolded
On some of our play dates with others, I wore a blindfold for the majority of the evening, and realized I love being blindfolded.
I am the kind of person who wants everyone to have a nice time. I am very susceptible to the vibe around me and always keep an eye on everyone. If I see an expression on someone’s face and interpret it as being negative, I want to act on it. I want to make it better. During a play date I can’t act on it, but it does occupy my mind. And when it occupies my mind, it takes away a tiny bit of the pleasure I could feel.
Being blindfolded means I cannot see what is happening around me. I can only feel and hear. Nothing around me can distract me. During the mentioned play date, I couldn’t see, but had to concentrate on my senses, the whipping, the spanking, the pain, the pleasure – all of it felt more intense. It was so intense and I was so focused that I went deeper into subspace than I have ever been before.
Analyzing those feelings after the play date, I was positive: I love blindfolds and how they help me to experience so intensely.
Being blindfolded all the time
Would I want to be blindfolded in every session? I seriously don’t know. Of course, this is not for me to decide. Sometimes Master T wants me to see what is happening and there are times I really like to see what he is doing. Other times I wish I could be blindfolded. Can I ask for it? Yes, of course I can. Will my wish be granted? That depends on Master T.
I think with this – being blindfolded – the same careful balance should be kept as with anything else. If you do the same thing every time, over and over again, it becomes boring and less exciting. You get used to it and the ‘magic’ disappears. I am not good at keeping this balance, but thankfully Master T is.
One thing I will do? Ask him if we can go shopping for a proper blindfold soon!
And as said above, we did!
Blindfolds now, in 2020
Much of the above has been written seven years ago, with some additions in italics. In the past four years very little has happened regarding our D/s, so blindfolds weren’t used at all.
I love the leather blindfold we have bought back then, and love how it pours me into darkness, and make me use my other senses to try and figure out what’s happening or about to happen. I would honestly love to wear it again, to be able to just let go.
In the past months I have become more curious about wearing a hood, but every time I look at the options out there, I discard them. All of them cover your nose and/or mouth in some or other way. Even though people tell me that it’s quite easy to breathe through some of the fabric, I have my doubts.
Then we went to the kink store some weeks ago, and there I saw a hood that only covered the eyes, not the nose and mouth. That intrigued me, and we might just go back and buy it.
Until then, blindfolds it is!
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