I could just throw a line to you
But I should let sleeping dogs lie ’cause I know better, baby
I write it
But what good will it do
To reopen the wound
So I take a deep breath
And I save as draft
~ Lyrics from Save As Draft by Katy Perry
I have never saved any drafts on social media. I have never felt the need to write something and not send it. Still, reading the words of this song, it made me think about my presence on social media, and how much different it is this year from what it was the years before.
Social media, a wee history
Social media can be a blessing, but also a curse. To me it always was a place to connect with people, from the first moment I started on any kind of social media. I come from a chat background, where I chatted on online platforms, and also on MSN Messenger and ICQ.
The first online social media platform I used was Hyves, which I believe was only a Dutch platform, and the only reason why I created the account was because our then 8-year old daughter told us she was on Hyves. I wanted to keep an eye on things. Hyves sort of dwindled, and eventually disappeared, and we all created accounts on Facebook, and on a blue Monday I even had an account on MySpace.
Twitter was already a thing, but it took me until January 2011 to create an account, and the only reason I did this was because I wanted to promote my blog. It ended up growing into a place where I met lots of people — some of them also in real life. Some of those met in real life became friends, and others became friends even when I haven’t met them.
From the moment I started using Facebook, I have never been very active on there. Yes, there was a time when I posted there more than I do nowadays, but mainly Facebook is a way from me to keep in contact with family abroad, and follow the things closer family and friends do. I like to comment on their images, or just read along to see what experiences they share. I have a strict policy on my personal Facebook: no colleagues. No matter how friendly I am with colleagues, I don’t want to have them on my Facebook, the same way I never invite them over to our house.
Of course I also have Facebook for my blog, but there I actually only use my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/MarieARebelle/) and I tend to forget updating it. Every once in a while I schedule a couple of posts, and then for weeks I am not on Facebook. To be honest, I don’t even check my personal Facebook every day!
Where Twitter grew from a place where I could promote my blog, to a place where I had daily conversations with several people, this year it once again changed to a place where I mainly promote my blog.
Some events have caused me to step away from Twitter for a while, and reassess what I want from it. I realized I had allowed social media to control my life. I really was busy with Twitter during all my waking hours, and even logged into it at work, and constantly kept an eye on it. What if I missed something? If people thought I didn’t care if I don’t comment on their tweets? What if someone mentions me and I don’t answer quickly enough? What would they think of me?
Yes, I was like a train crash waiting to happen, and it did. And when it did, it hurt so damn much, but if I look back on it now, the crash was actually a blessing (so thank you to all who caused this crash). I still like looking at Twitter, but some days I even forget to check my timeline.
I know: shocking!
A step back from social media
Taking a step back from Twitter (and actually all social media) and not being as active anymore, is actually quite freeing. I have time for so much more now. I crochet. Read. Am researching our family tree. I have more time to spend with Master T. When we go out, we have more conversations, because I am not constantly keeping an eye on the timeline.
I really enjoy this new, more relaxed rhythm, my life has take on.
There was a time when social media controlled my life, where every. damn. opinion. on there mattered to me and colored my emotions, the way I got through my day. But with all that happened, I realized that my life is here. Here where I sit, here where we live, here with my husband, my kids, my grandkids, my friends, and yes, even with those colleagues I don’t want in my home or on my social media!
© Rebel’s Notes
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