Writing, blogging and journaling

This Tell Me About prompt couldn’t have come at a better time since I, just like many other bloggers I have been following for years, have come to a crossroads regarding my online presence.


I have never been one for journaling. Oh, I have tried it — many times even — but my attempts always stranded after two or three lines. You should think, seeing that on this webiste I write about myself all the time, I should’ve been able to do journaling. But it’s different, or maybe it’s because I tried journaling in times when I needed to process feelings I was not ready to process, like when I cried for 6 weeks and ended up at a psychologist, who wanted me to do the journaling, and it just didn’t work.

Even so, ever since I have started using a Passion Planner, I have more or less been journaling. I don’t do it every day, but I do jot down things that have happened on some days, and at the end of the week I write a small summary of how the week has been. I definitely don’t put everything in there, but I suppose what I jot down can be seen as journaling. What I write is mostly not about my feelings, as that is something I find difficult to write (or talk) about at the moment those are running high. I always need time to process them, and the time I need can sometimes run up to months, depending on how intense those feelings are.

Will I changed my journaling habits in future? Yes, I think so. I have decided to stop using the Passion Planner, and step over to a different kind of planner/journal, and might try my hand at bullet journaling.

Creative writing

There was a time when my head was filled with stories, and I couldn’t wait to get them on paper. If you go through the history of this website, you will see that in the past years I have written very little erotica. There are just no stories in my head anymore. I am pretty sure they’re not gone, but only that I have spread myself so thin, that there was no space in my head for characters to form and find there way onto my screen.

I want to get back to writing, but in order to do so I first have to find some peace in my head, and as said above, it can sometimes take months for me to work through intense feelings. I have a lot to work through at the moment, but I also want to write, and share what I have written.

My first goal is to finish adjusting No Consent for the blog, and post that here on a regular basis. I am working on some other ideas too, and hope they will help me get back to creative writing again.

Other writing & blogging

At the end of January 2021, my blog will be 11 years old. For several years, I have been part of something bigger, something I enjoyed, but in these past months it brought me no joy anymore. I have come to the realization that I was doing too many things for others, and too little for myself. This means I have to take a long, hard look at what I am doing, and decide how I want to move forward.

I will still blog. Writing is part of who I am, as is sharing. I have renamed this blog to be a ‘lifestyle blog’ since nowadays I barely ever write about sex. I write about life, about mental and physical health, about menopause and past memories. Where sex was the main theme of my blog for years, the past months has seen it move away from that. Oh, I still occasionally write about sex, but it’s not the main goal of my blogging anymore. And of course, I still am the exhibitionist I always was, so I do keep on sharing sexy images, but I have also started sharing some of my ‘normal’ photography.

This year is into its second half. The rest of this year it will become clear — to me as much as to you — where I take my blog. There might be big changes, there might not be. There might be more stories, there might not be. I am sort of throwing everything I did and do onto one big pile — the good and the bad — and taking from that what works for me and what really makes me happy.

Because that’s what I need to do again: I need to do this for me. I have lost sight of that along the way, and I need to change that.

© Rebel’s Notes
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17 thoughts on “Writing, blogging and journaling

  1. I think it’s only right for you to rebrand it to something that feels better to you. Things evolve and really, sexblogging is lifestyle blogging too in a way. I get what you’re saying about creative writing. That struggle is something that long plagued me and I hope it stops plaguing you eventually too

    1. You are right, sex blogging is lifestyle blogging too, which is why I still included it in the banner on my site, as I don’t think I will ever stop writing about sex, but I just don’t want my blog to be known as a sex blog anymore, if that makes sense 🙂

  2. Having recently found your blog I am glad to se you are continuing! Lifestyle or sex—it doesn’t matter to me. I just want to continue hearing your voice!

  3. I love Liz’s comment that is so true – as we change and take on new interests our blogs are bound to follow – that is healthy I think
    May xx

    1. I agree, and I think the changes happening now are long overdue. It has been necessary for some time xox

  4. I love the energy and the positivity in this post. You are such an inspiration to others with your writing and the way you throw yourself into things that it will be interesting to follow the direction you take and I have no doubt that you will being many of us along with you on that journey ❤️

    1. Oh Missy, you make me blush with your comment. Thank you for your very kind words, and for always being so supporting. You are a true friend ❤

  5. I’m glad that your blog exists. I enjoy reading what you post and learning more about your relationship with your husband.

    I don’t think change is a bad thing and not writing about sex is definitely okay. Lately, I struggle to write about sex myself. Looking forward to see what the future has in store for your blog.

    1. Thank you so much, Sass. As I get older, I suppose sex will get less (currently there’s none, but I will get back to it), and I actually like to just be able to write about everything. Looking back now, I might have limited myself far too much in the first 6-7 years of my blog, and the changes that are happening now were bound to happen.

  6. I’m glad to hear this, Marie. It seems like several of us are sort of moving into that lifestyle blog (with a NSFW kick) sphere. We are so much more than sex, and sometimes it is nice to share beyond that. Especially if sex is becoming less of a daily thing. Though you have more reason for that than I, as we age, it is fairly common for lots of people. And then, what do you write about on a sex blog? So, yes, I can see that some of us are kind of having to find a new niche. But then, pioneers are always pioneers, eh?

    1. You are so right, Brigit. And you know what, not writing only about sex is something that actually became quite a habit in the past years, and I like it. To have a blog which deals only with sex, makes it quite limiting, while lifestyle blog can include any subject I want 🙂
      I like what you said… a lifestyle blog with a NSFW kick!

  7. I’m glad yo see you’re still here and still coming up with new ideas and content. I can’t imagine how challenging the last half year has been, but there are many who love your blog and your unique way of placing words.
    But blogging for you, is definitely the way to go 🙂

    1. Thank you so much for your kind words, MrsK. The past 6 (8) months have been really challenging, and I know it’s the right thing to do to just stop, think and then do what makes me happy 🙂

  8. I love reading your blog, Marie, both your writings and looking at your pictures. Our blogs evolve with us ☺️

    1. You are right, it evolves with us, and I have a feeling I have been standing still for too long. It’s time to take a step forward. And just for the record: I love reading your blog too 🙂

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