– the conscious and unconscious movements and postures by which attitudes and feelings are communicated.
Master T and I have been together for just over 18 years now, of which we have lived under the same roof almost 16 years now. In November this year we celebrate our fifteenth wedding anniversary.
After all these years it’s obvious we know each other well enough to be able to read each other’s body language. It’s something we don’t do consciously. I don’t site here, look at him and think ‘okay, his body is now telling me…’
But I do look at him, and see…
… him sitting in his chair, watching some documentary or movie on Netflix, his hand smoothing out his beard, over and over again. That’s when I know he’s content, and enjoying whatever he’s watching.
… him lying in bed, his body half turned to me, and I instinctively know that we won’t go to sleep anytime soon.
… him looking at me with a — what I call — ‘dark’ expression, and I know he’s in pain. He’s not one to complain, and I always have to ask how bad it is, but I have come to know that expression all too well in the past couple of years.
Body language in our relationship
I do believe Master T can ‘read’ me too, just like I can read him, and I believe this is part of the reason why we are so tuned in with each other. He knows when I’m not feeling well, as much as I know when he isn’t. He also knows when I need to be touched, and here I don’t mean that it has to be in a sexual way. Sometimes I am just in need of a hug, or of him holding my hand, to we are physically connected in some way.
I have many times before said that I am never the one who takes the initiative for sex. By this I mean that when we are in bed, I won’t roll over to Master T, start kissing him or slip my hand in his underpants to indicate that I am up for sex. However, I do communicate my desire in other ways. I will hug him from behind when he’s cooking, and press my full body against his. Or, I will walk to where he sits in his recliner and bend over to kiss him. He knows these signs.
Where we say to each other ‘I love you’, I think we communicate this through body language much more than saying it. A touch of a hand here. A light smack on the bottom there. And sometimes all we need between us is a look, and we know we both think the same.
It’s wonderful to be this in tune with my husband, to know we truly understand each other without words.
© Rebel’s Notes