… attractively unusual or old-fashioned.
Now I wouldn’t want to describe our relationship as being old-fashioned, or even unusual, but I guess when some people look at us they can think that. Why? Since we are that ‘annoying’ couple who you just know will be together forever, who are there for each other through thick and thin, who never speaks badly about one another, who have fun together doing the simplest things. My colleagues always moan about their husbands, about when they are sick they act as if they are dying, or how they never cook, or they never clean without the wives telling them to. I never join these conversations, because I can’t say the same. Back in the time when Master T could still help with the chores, he did things without me having to ask him. He cooks our dinners. He never complains, not now with the almost constant pain, or when he has a cold. I never hear him complain.
So maybe, if you compare our relationship to others, it might just be quaint. I somehow wonder whether this doesn’t have something to do with our natural roles as dominant and submissive. I don’t mind doing things for him. I look up to him. He is the head of the household, and he is the decision maker.
Old-fashioned? Yes, I guess it is.
Attractively unusual? I guess so too. I mean, if you look at the way we do things — and here I am talking about our daily routine — I guess it is a bit unusual. We have this unwritten rule that Master T makes our tea in the morning, and when I am home, he takes care of making tea throughout the morning. Then, in the afternoon and evening, it’s my turn. Whenever we drink alcohol, Master T will pour our glasses. It’s not that I am not allowed to do it; it just happened to become a habit.
Something else that might be seen as unusual is the fact that Master T and I love to be together. And I mean together, always. If I look at the past weeks — I have been working home since halfway through March — not once did we feel like we needed a break from each other. We are used to me going to the office four days a week, but now we have been together 24/7 for weeks, and we are still enjoying it. I really understand that not all couples, not all individuals are like this, but we certainly are, and I know already that once I can return to the office to work, we are going to miss each other immensely. It’s going to take some getting used to being apart again.
I have read an article in which was said quality in a relationship is more important than quantity, in regards with the time they spend together. If I look at our time together, it all feels like quality time, but it’s not like we talk to each other 24/7. We can be quiet together for hours, and have great conversations in between. Those conversations are sometimes about matters in the world, sometimes about the kids or grandkids, and sometimes we are just joking around.
I guess after all the hardships we have been through before we met each other — not only me, but also Master T — we just deserved to be with someone who brings out the best in us. Because that’s what Master T does for me, and I am very sure I do the same for him.
Someone once said to me that when she looks at us, she sees the perfect couple, that she sees we can’t be without each other. I won’t say that we are perfect, but if there is one thing I have learned over the years we have been together, it’s that we are perfect for each other!
© Rebel’s Notes