How to Find Your Kink

There’s a saying about sex and pizza. “Sex is like pizza; even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good.” Whomever said this must have never had truly bad pizza or truly bad sex. We don’t want you to have bad pizza or bad sex. In fact, both things can be astonishingly good if you know what you want and how you want it.

If you find your sex life, whether single or with a partner, becoming a little lackluster, there are ways you can spice it up. When it comes to sex, there are all types of sex that can be especially kinky. Surprisingly, a lot of these kinks are not that involved. In fact, you can implement them in little ways if you or your partner find themselves getting bored.

If you don’t know where to start in finding your kink — no worries! Here’s a simple list of kinks that you and your current or next partner can explore. Just make sure that consent is always involved, and that both you and your partner are interested in exploring them. These different kinks might just save your sex life.

Hopefully, you don’t have to have bad sex ever again. Our rule is no bad sex and no bad pizza.

1. Sex Toys

Sex toys can be a great intro to kink. The bonus is that you can try them solo, or there are sex toys that are specifically made for couples! Toys like vibrators are good for both. Just make sure to do your research when it comes to what you and a partner are looking for in the bedroom. It might even be really sexy to take a trip together to the sex toy shop! You’ll want to make sure that both you and your partner get off to a great start to keeping things kinky.


Alright, so BDSM might seem like a serious kink, but there’s actual subtle ways of introducing bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism into your pleasure party that won’t be scary. In fact, it will probably be just the opposite.

Some tactics you and your partner can use to introduce BDSM into the bedroom are things like orgasm denial (one partner has control over when and if their partner can finish) which makes for pretty intense orgasms, subtle forms of bondage like tying up a partner with something as easy as a tie or a scarf, blindfolding, spanking, or even costumes or specific outfits to get the party started.

3. Group Sex

Wow! Group sex can be a wonderful experience if you have consenting parties. There are a few types of group sex you can engage in, depending on how you identify in the LGBTQ+ community, what and who you want to explore, and what is exciting to both you and your partner. These can be either all female, all male, or a combination of genders! This of course can include those who identify as non-binary or trans. Whether you want to add one more or a few more partners, the stimulation of having multiple people in the bedroom gives the option to explore.

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