Booty Calls

booty callThe Food for Thought topic for this week is all about casual encounters, once where you don’t make a commitment for life.

Three times in my life I said ‘I do’ and each time I said it, I thought I was making a commitment for life. Unfortunately, life took different turns with me, and two of those times ended in a disaster. During my first marriage I was only committed to him, even after I suspected he was fucking some of his fellow students. In my second marriage I was much less of a saint, as I had lots of sexy chats online, some of them ending in my masturbating in front of the camera. I also ended up in a hotel for one night, and I wasn’t alone. Now, in my third marriage, its so different from what it ever was before.

But, of course there were also the times before my marriages and in between. I had hookups then too, some of them in a semi-commitment, some of them just because I could, and where I didn’t allow any kind of ‘claiming’.

Have you ever initiated/accepted a hook-up or booty-call? What were the circumstances behind it?

Not only one, but several. In my teens I hooked up with boys for only one night at the movies, and allowed them to slip their hands in my pants. Yep, I was filthy like that. This was before my first marriage. Then, between marriage 1 and 2, back when I was in the army and doing my basic training, I hooked up with one of the sergeants in his room. I was not supposed to go there, but did so again when I was sent out to the same training facility a year later. It was only after my second marriage failed and I swore never to make a lifetime commitment again, that I has lots of hookups.

Normally I would have waited for the men to initiate it, but I didn’t. Many of those were initiated by me. Some happened on the backseat of a car, some in a hotel, but all of them were great, mostly because there were no strings attached!

Have you ever had a one night stand? Was it a good or bad experience? What made it so?

There’s only one one night stand I can remember, and that was during my second marriage. I had been chatting to this guy for so long, and when I had a chance to meet him, I made sure I could spend at least one night with him. He was a gentle, kind man, but there was an air of discomfort surrounding us, because all night I had the feeling he would rather have wanted to be there with my cousin than with me.

I’m trying to think of other one night stands, but I don’t think there were any. Oh wait, there was the ‘attempt’ to a one night stand, not from my side, but from his. We had been chatting for some time and that specific day he came to pick me up and we went for a walk on the beach. I was a bit startled when he acted very possessive when he held my hand, but still went to his place with him. I freaked out when he started talking about us being together and him never letting me go again and when he stood on his knees in front of me and declared his undying love. When I asked him to take me home, he acted so strange that I was prepared to walk home. I never heard from him again, and from there on I made sure I met people on neutral ground, and I drove myself.

Have you ever had a “friend with benefits” relationship? How long did it last? Are you still friends or acquaintances with that person? Are you still having sex with that friend?

I have never been in a “friend with benefits” relationship, but when I think of the sexy encounters we’ve had with people who have also become our friends, I do think of the as “friends with benefits”. You see, those people are special to me; I consider them friends, before I see them as people to have sex with.

Before I met Master T and before we embarked on our journey to include other people into our lives, I have never thought I would be comfortable with it. I have been raised that a husband and wife should be faithful to each other, that they never even look at other people in a sexual way anymore. Master T has been raised the same. When he suggested that I should have sex with others, I couldn’t do it for years. The first time was very awkward, but gradually I got ‘used’ to it to the point where I can now fully enjoy it. We have one rule: we are always together. This means I (or Master T) will never go out and be with someone without the other present. Knowing I have the freedom to have sex with others, has made me comfortably and happily settled in our relationship. I know that with the hard times we are going through, many a woman (or man) would have went out to look for something outside the marriage but I have no desire to do so. But, that’s a subject for another time…

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