Something many of us struggle with – men and women – is body image. If I look at myself, I have many days that I look at myself in the mirror and think: you don’t look bad. Other days I stand in front of the mirror and I hate that my belly is bigger, that my thighs are thicker and that I have stretch marks. Thankfully, most of the time I am okay with my body. It is what it is, I take care of it much better now than I have the last 20 years, and most of all I just want to LIVE and accept that I am who I am, that this is my body which has given me two kids, has had the strength to carry on through all the hardships of life, and that there are people who derive pleasure from it.
One thing that has really helped and is still helping to accept myself as I am, is posting images of myself. And not only posting them, but receiving feedback on them. It helps to see yourself through the eyes of other people, and that can gradually change the way you view yourself. Sometimes, that’s a good thing…
One of the posts that moved me this week is Julie’s My body and me. Sometimes something happens in our lives, making us realize that some things we have always thought are important, actually are not.
She’s a greedy, greedy girl and the way she writes about the sweet torture she is put through, makes me feel the need for greed too!
This week, once again, I am including two of Cara Thereon’s stories as the one follows the other. I like a good detective story, and I hope Cara continues what she has started in Playing God and Deal with the devil.
Molly is a stunning photographer and the queen of self photography, and here, as a Seasonal Gift in her garden, she just looks stunning.
I have been following Livvy’s photos with interest, every week looking out for the next one, to see the beauty of her pregnancy! It’s such a privilege that Livvy allows us to be part of her journey.
Prompts are a great way to inspire you to a new post, whether they have prompts or not. These are the ones currently running:
|Meme||Prompt||Date(s) to link|
|Masturbation Monday||Week 212 (Missy)||21 to 25 September 2018|
|Wicked Wednesday||Prompt #330: Heal||22 to 27 September 2018|
|Food for Thought Friday||F4TFriday #66 – Starting Out||21 to 27 September 2018|
|Friday Flash||Friday Flash No. 24 — This Is A Sign||22 to 29 September 2018|
|Sinful Sunday||I am…||7 October 2018|
|Kink of the week||Sex Workers||16 to 30 September 2018|
|Elust #111||Elust submissions September||1 to 8 October 2018|
Prompt 329 for Wicked Wednesday was ‘Roots’ for which 19 posts were linked. The top 3 was done by Livvy Libertine and she chose:
- Mind the Gap (part 2) by Posy Churchgate
- DDLG/CGL: Re-parenting & Trauma by littlewinnie
- The best little whore by Molly Moore
Today is the last day on which you can vote for your three favorite stories in the quarter finals of the Smut Marathon 2018! Fourteen writers have written stories set in an elevator and only ten of those writers will go through to round 9, the semi-finals of the Smut Marathon. Please be so kind to read the stories and vote. The writers need every vote they can get to stay in the race!
Tips & tricks
Have you been reading sex blogs for some time and are you thinking of starting your own? Or maybe you haven’t been blogging for that long and you need some tips on improving your site? Kayla’s post 9 Things New Sex Bloggers Need to Know definitely has the tips you need. And, believe me, even if you have been blogging for quite some time there’s a tip in here for you!
Last but not least
I started the post out talking about body image and mentioning that I am taking much better care of my body now than I did for the last 20 years. Twenty years might not be accurate, as back in 1999 and 2000 I walked the ‘Vierdaagse’ in Nijmegen, Netherlands, which is a yearly event where you walk 30, 40 or 50 kilometers for four consecutive days. I did 40 back then, on both occasions, and I did it with my mom and my daughter. We walked a lot back then, and actually, when we stopped walking, I stopped doing anything physical to care for my body. I have tried many times to do some fitness at home and there were weeks where I started walking, but I always stopped again. At the end of June this year I started going to the gym twice a week, and I notice that my muscles are stronger and that I have more stamina. I don’t really notice any weight loss, but somehow I don’t even mind. I am taking care of my body, and that’s a lot more than I did three months ago.
My doctor once told me that a tired body is better than a tired mind, and I believe that starting to go to the gym has helped me to start healing mentally too. So, in caring for my body, I am also caring for my mind.
What do you do to care for your body and mind?
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