Deal-Breakers… This Turns Me Off

Last week I blogged about what I find sexy, and said that I cannot really pinpoint just what I find sexy in a person. I find someone sexy or not. It’s as simple as that. This week the question is to balance out last week’s subject:

What would constitute a deal-breaker in terms of finding someone attractive? List the top three things that would be a serious turn off for you; it can be physical, a personality quirk, a habit… whatever does NOT float your boat!


Immediately some answers sprang to mind, but what also came to mind is how I cannot define just what I find sexy, but I can tell you what are deal-breakers to me. I find this strange, but I don’t think I will be the only one.

Whenever we have dates with others, Master T and I are always together. The biggest deal-breaker for me is when Master T is not acknowledge. He never joins the play, but loves to watch when someone else is busy with me. I have the habit of looking at him frequently, simply because I want to. I want to see his face, want to know he approves (even though I know he does) and want to see how it excites him (because it does). It happened once that someone told me not to look at my husband, because at that moment I was his and not Master T’s. Deal-breaker! Don’t try to block my view from my husband. Don’t constantly kiss me and make it difficult for me to see my husband. Just don’t make me feel like you are jealous of the fact that I want to look at my husband. Whoever I am with has been chosen by Master T and is allowed to have sexy fun with me, so they better be grateful for it and respect Master T for what he is – my husband and my owner. I am his, and nobody else’s!

Phew, that was a bit of a rant, I think… which must show how strongly I feel about it.

Speaking of kissing. I love kissing, but I prefer kissing with my husband. If another man wants to kiss me in front of my husband, it’s okay, but please don’t constantly kiss me. Please keep it to a minimum. Kissing me will not be a deal-breaker, except if you do it too much.

Another thing that can be a deal-breaker for me is personal hygiene. I cannot tell you here just what it is that puts me off, but if I have a notion of someone not having a good personal hygiene, it will be a deal-breaker for me. Here I don’t mean a sweaty person (you can always shower before and after a date, since we are always in a hotel room when we meet someone else), as I too tend to sweat because of nerves (and the f***ing menopause). But if I can smell sweat on you that have been there for far too long, then it might be a deal-breaker. As said, I cannot pinpoint things right now, but a bad personal hygiene can totally put me off.

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Then, other quirks and habits that can put me off:

  • eating with your mouth open, or talking with food in your mouth;
  • picking your nose;
  • eating or drinking noisily;
  • constantly looking at me and sort of ignoring Master T (I tell you, it happened before that Master T asks someone a question and that person looked at me when he answered the question, totally ignoring Master T.)
  • drunkenness.

We all have our habits, but we all know what common good manners are. Just remember those and you will be okay. As for your kinks… when you have kinks that are not mine, those will not be a deal-breaker, unless you force them on me. Then I’m done with you…

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One thought on “Deal-Breakers… This Turns Me Off

  1. Great post Rebel – glad we gave you a chance to have a good old rant!
    I couldn’t agree more about personal hygiene, in fact that was one of my dealbreakers too. And the first three in your extra list are totally gross!
    Hope to see you again for next week’s question!
    Kat x

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