I am subscribed on the daily prompts of the Submissive Guide and have written a couple of posts for this blog when a prompt interested me, such as the one on being a masochist. This is another prompt that caught my attention:
“Dominance has nothing to do with ropes, cuffs, or floggers… It has everything to do with trust and strength.” – Unknown
We have rope and cuffs and floggers in our relationship, but those things are not needed for Master T to express His dominance. He needs nothing to be dominant, because being dominant is not a role He plays, but it’s part of His nature. Just like I am a natural submissive, He is a natural Dominant. It’s in His way of doing, in His eyes, in the way He speaks.
Whether it should be called ‘trust and strength’ like in the quote, I do not know, but I know I wouldn’t have been able to submit to Master T if I haven’t trusted His judgment and trusted that He will keep me safe. He has an inner strength in Him that radiates something that had me trusting Him from the first moment we met each other.
This subject of dominance automatically makes me think of what someone at Eroticon 2012 said when they met Master T. It was something like: ‘I thought he was a lot bigger’. I think many of us make the mistake to think that a dominant male should be a big and strong man, someone with broad shoulders and strong arms who can pin you down with one hand when you are being a brat. Believe me, even though Master T is not like this, I also had this image of dominant males in my mind. Except for one, not one of the dominant males I have met have bodies like described.
Master T is a slender man and definitely not big and strong. Yes, He is taller than I am, by about 20 centimeters and yes, His arms are stronger than mine. But I’m never such a brat that He has to pin me down. No, that is not entirely true. Sometimes I am a brat and then He does pin me down. But, not with His arms. He uses words. His words are much stronger than any pair of arms will ever be. Words work better with me. Yes, I like a good struggle just as much as many women I know, but in the end Master T’s words mean a lot more to me than any struggle ever would.
Like I said, Master T is what I call a natural dominant male. When we are in a session I feel His dominance. I feel His control. And even when not in session, I feel His control. It’s there always, because we have a 24/7 mindset and don’t switch the D/s off when we are not in a session. It’s our way of life. He’s dominant, I’m submissive. And we are it all the time, even if He doesn’t handle a flogger for weeks or I don’t feel cuffs around my wrists. It’s part of who we are.
Long before we made the commitment of a D/s relationship, we were into BDSM but never called it that. We were just ‘playing around’ with cuffs and chains and restraints and clamps. This photo dates back to the time when I still had my own house and only visited Master T on weekends. We had a long distance relationship, living 40 kilometers from each other and seeing each other only in the weekends. Back then we slept on the attic on two very old beds, until we bought a new bed for ourselves, which we slept on for a couple of years before we bought yet another one. On the photo the chain is clipped to a hook in one of the beams on the attic. Thinking of this, I can’t wait for the day we don’t have any kids living at home anymore and are able to use the attic the way we want to – as ‘play room’.
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