Prostate play/Prostate Massage

One thought kept on playing over and over in my head when I saw the topic of the week, and it was definitely not a pleasant thought. Brace yourselves for this, or skip the next paragraph if you don’t want to read something really yucky.

Some of you who have been following this blog for some time and have pieced together a couple of the puzzle pieces, will know I have been married before. The previous marriage, obviously, was not a success, for various reasons. However, soon after we got married (for the wrong reasons) and while we were still exploring, I decided that since he was stimulating me anally, I would try return the favor. In a way I was curious about prostate massage, but it was not a particular desire of me to stimulate a man anally. When at last I had overcome the thought in my head, I moved my finger towards his anus and was appalled when I felt some hard pieces stuck to the hairs around his asshole. Yes, yuck! I think you can fill in what happened next.

Back to the present. Master T is not at all interested in prostate play/massage. Would I have tried it on Him if He wanted it? Yes, I would. One thing that’s very important to both Master T and me is hygiene, so what happened back then will definitely not happen now. But, as said, He is not interested in this so it will not happen. Will I try it with any other man? No, I don’t think I would.


But, what is prostate massage?

Shortly, as found on Wikipedia it is:

Prostate massage or Prostate milking is the massage or stimulation of the male prostate gland for sexual stimulation or medical purposes.
The prostate takes part in the sexual response cycle, and is essential for ejaculation. Due to its proximity to the anterior rectal wall, it can be stimulated from the anterior wall of the rectum or externally via the perineum.

On the website of there is a technical description of why prostate massage feels so good:

A man’s prostate gland is responsible for manufacturing some of the contents of seminal fluid in ejaculation. It’s a walnut-sized and somewhat rigid mound of flesh located between your testicles and your anus, right next to your rectum. When stroked, it can give you an extra-intense orgasm.
In fact, it’s possible to have an orgasm through nothing but prostate stimulation. Placing a finger or a curved toy inside the rectum is the best direct way to get to it.

Another piece of information I found was on the page of Here the question about what the health benefits are of a prostate massage:

When the prostate is massaged, stagnant semen is released, leading to the overall betterment of erection and semen flow. Also, and more importantly, prostate milking can reduce the chances of your man getting prostatitis, genital pain, prostate cancer, erectile dysfunction and needing frequent night-time visits to the loo – which means you’ll have less to worry about, too!

Prostate stimulation or massage do not always have to happen internally. External stimulation can be done by massaging the area between the base of the balls and the anus. This is called the perineum. In stead of your fingers, you can also use a toy. There are several kinds of toys, from anal plugs to anal massagers to anal dildos. You can use a strap-on or vibrating toy to stimulate the prostate. When using a sex toy, you can play with different vibration settings, pressure, and depth to help your partner get an orgasm. It takes patience and practice to do that, so don’t set your expectations too high when your foray into prostate play.

You can find more here and here and here. You can go to the site of Prostate Pleasure for some help on selecting the right toy for you.

I have said above that neither Master T nor I have the desire to stimulate His prostate, but no one should take this as us judging others who do engage in this practice. Each couple, each man, each woman should do as they want, just the way we do what we want. No two people are the same and each should follow his or her own desires. I mean, I am more than just fond of anal sex, but not every woman likes that, right?

I must admit that before I started writing this piece, for the first time ever I have checked with Master T how He feels about prostate play/massage. I was relieved when He answered exactly how I always suspected He would: the idea is not appealing to Him at all. Why was I relieved? Because I would have felt incredibly guilty if I had totally misjudged one of His desires. And what if He had said that He would like to try it? Well then I would have wiped out my bad experience with it and I would have started to try it on Him, step by step.

Each time I do a kink of the week post, I learn something new. This time I have re-learned that Master T and I understand each other without words.

© Rebel’s Notes

6 thoughts on “Prostate play/Prostate Massage

  1. My partner wants nothing to do with it either, but like you, I would if he was interested 🙂
    Great post!

  2. It just shows how in tune with each other you are and the fact that you have learned more than you knew before is a bonus!!

    ~Mia~ xx

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