A gag is sometimes worn during some bondage and BDSM roleplays. Gags are usually associated with roleplays involving bondage, but that is not necessarily the case. The person who wears the gag is regarded as the submissive partner, while the one not wearing one is regarded as the dominant one.
People wear a gag for a variety of reasons. Some people derive erotic pleasure from a gag, either in a submissive or dominant role. When combined with other physical restraints, the wearing of a gag can increase the wearer’s sense of helplessness and anxiety level within a BDSM scene, by depriving them of a means to influence the progress of a sexual activity through speech. Some people enjoy the feeling of surrendering the ability to speak to another person in an activity.
I am not very fond of the gag, but Master T likes to see me wearing it. He finds me beautiful when gagged, and that’s not because I cannot say anything, but because I have to surrender to Him. When He puts the gag in my mouth, I have to calm myself. I am afraid to drool, afraid to gag if I lie on my back, afraid I may not be able to breath… just afraid. But, when I wear the gag and when I manage to control my fears, they disappear to the background and I surrender to Him. I’m still aware of saliva trickling out of my mouth, or when I am on my back, saliva pooling in the back of my throat, but because I am calm and I accept my surrender to Master T, I do not panic about it anymore. I will never be fond of the gag, but I have accept that it’s part of surrender to His will, part of my submission to Him.
And sometimes… sometimes it’s just nice not to have to say anything… (but don’t tell Master T I said that!)
While researching for this post – I love to give some information in my Kink of the week posts – I was amazed to learn how many different kinds of gags there are out there. Some of them I know, but many of these I have only now learned about:
- Ball gag: made of rubber or silicon and shaped like sphere.
- Bit gag: styled like a bit used in a bridle for a horse.
- Butterfly gag: wing shaped and usually inflatable.
- Cleave: a scarf or cloth that is pulled between the teeth.
- Detective / over-the-mouth (OTM): a scarf or bandanna that is tied over the mouth.
- Bandit / over-the-nose (OTN): cloth that covers the nose and the mouth.
- Forniphillic gag: the purpose of this gag is to objectify and/or humiliate its wearer. A tool or other device can be mounted on this gag for the wearer to perform a task/service for their master/mistress. Devices that can be mounted on it are: dildo/vibrator, ashtray, toilet brush, feather duster.
- Funnel gag: a funnel with a tube leading into the mouth and it’s used to force the bound person to drink a fluid.
- Inflatable gag: a rubber balloon, usually paired with a ring gag to keep it in place.
- Knotted gag: a blend of the ball and cleave gags, where the scarf has a knot tied in the middle.
- Muzzle gag: works the same way as an OTM gag, but it’s made of leather and covers the lower part of the face.
- Pecker gag: also called a penis gag. It has a bulge resembling a phallus that is placed in the mouth for the wearer to suck on.
- Ring gag: similar to the ball gag, except that the ball is replaced with a ring. It reduces the risk of choking and allows access to the mouth.
There are some more gags mentioned on Wikipedia.
Also while researching I came across this:
If a submissive tries to swallow saliva, that does limit the ability to breathe. Once the submissive realizes there is no point to this and lets the saliva drop out of the mouth then there are not breathing issues. (Source: BDSM 101: Playing with Gags)
Okay, so this means I should not try to swallow the saliva, because then I will feel like I am going to choke. I should just allow it to drop out of my mouth. You see, that’s just it: I have this thing about being ‘dirty’. I can get incredibly upset if I have spilled something on me. If I do, I want it cleaned immediately. I also remember the first time I allowed Master T to climax on my breasts. And the first time He did that on my face. It took a great deal of self control on my part not to freak out. I am getting better with that, though, and I guess in time and with training I will learn to just let saliva drop out of my mouth when I am gagged.
However, I don’t think I will ever be fond of the gag, but I will accept it if Master T decides I have to wear it.
© Rebel’s Notes