Number 95 on my list of 101 things to do in 1001 days is: Watch ‘The Secretary’ with James Spader. Why have I put this on my 101 list? First of all, because I did not want to forget about the movie. I tend to want to do things and then just forget about it. Over the years I have learned to send myself a reminder email, but that is not always the best method. Putting it on my 101 list was a full proof method to not forget about watching this movie. The second reason I put it on there was because I was intrigued. The movie ‘Secretary’ was mentioned in the time that the entire discussion of Fifty Shades was raging through Twitter. Words such as ‘a million times better than Fifty Shades’ and ‘one of the best BDSM movies out there’ was what convinced me I wanted to see it.
We wanted to buy it, but it turned out that the movie was only available in the US. We tried other means to find it and eventually Master T found a version that had Danish subtitles. The movie was acquired and only a month later I at last made time to watch it. And once I have seen it, I wanted to see it again. And again. You get it.
This is what the IMDB says about Secretary:
Lee Holloway is a smart, quirky woman in her twenties who returns to her hometown in Florida after a brief stay in a mental hospital. In search of relief from herself and her oppressive childhood environment, she starts to date a nerdy friend from high school and takes a job as a secretary in a local law firm, soon developing an obsessive crush on her older boss, Mr. Grey. Through their increasingly bizarre relationship, Lee follows her deepest longings to the heights of masochism and finally to a place of self-affirmation.
Increasingly bizarre relationship? Yes, I suppose for the setting they were in – as boss and secretary – it might be a bizarre relationship, but I found it exciting to see. There were some scenes that I really wished had more to it, that more imagery was shown of the actual BDSM acts and not only a snippet to get a feel of it. But I guess that back in 2002 and even today, the general public does not want to be ‘confronted’ by BDSM scenes and therefore the makers of the movie have chosen to portray some aspects superficially.
Two scenes in the movie I have found on Youtube. The first one is where he has her bending over the desk, reading a letter and he spanks her. The other is where she is bent over the desk, her skirt pulled up, her panties and stockings pulled down and he masturbates behind her and climaxes on her back. There is a third scene where her submission is really portrayed beautifully. In this scene he tells her to keep her hands on the desk and her feet in one place. She does, for days. The entire movie builds up to this point.
It’s not only her sexual development that comes alive in the movie, but you also see his doubts about himself. He considers himself to be disgusting and sends her away, because he knows if she stays he will not stop dominating her. She begs to stay, but he is adamant.
Even though this is an eleven year old movie, I surely recommend it to everyone, whether you are in a BDSM relationship or not. Don’t expect it to be a ‘manual’ because that it definitely is not. Even though I would have loved to see more depth in some of the scenes, I found the movie to portray the acts of dominance and submission in a way that make it easy for people to understand, if they are open to accept that there are different kinds of relationships out there.
© Rebel’s Notes