When you see the word roleplay, you might think of actors in a play, but when you add kink to the same line, actors in a play will obviously be the last thing you think of!

Sexual roleplay, according to Wikipedia, is roleplay that has a strong erotic element. It may involve two or more people who act out roles in a sexual fantasy and may be a form of foreplay and be sexually arousing. Many people regard sexual roleplay as a means of overcoming sexual inhibitions. It may take place in the real world, or via an internet forum, chat-room, or email–allowing for physically impossible erotic interests to be enacted.
Wikipedia continues: Many of the most common sexual roleplays involve a power differential and form part of the dominance and submission aspect of BDSM. Roles can be general designations of power positions, or very specific, detailed fantasies. Some people, such as those living the Gorean lifestyle make use of an entire imaginary world. The controlling player is often called the top or dominant while the controlled individual is called the bottom or submissive. It can be considered dangerous and therefore a safeword is advised to continue the safety of other(s) in such acts.

Scenarios that can be played out, include:
* Teacher – Student
* Slave – Master
* Plumber- Housewife
* Photographer – Model
* Escort – Client
* Doctor – Nurse
* Stripper – Client
* Fireman – Trapped person
* Executive – Secretary
* Nurse – Patient
* Torturer – Captive prisoner
* Authority figure – Misbehaving Adult
* Owner – Inanimate object

* Ageplay
* Animal-play
* Kidnapped fantasy
* Gender-play
* Goddess worship
* Hospital fantasies
* Uniform fetish
* Rape fantasy
* Prison fetish

So which roles do we play when we engage in play?

None at all!

Master T is the dominant, I am the submissive, but those are not roles. Those define who we are. Dominance is part of His personality as submissiveness is part of mine. Yes, when we have a playdate, these character traits are more prominent than when we sit on the couch, watching a movie. But those same character traits that are prominent during a playdate, can become prominent while we sit on the couch, watching a movie. To us they are not roles, they are who we are.

With that said, I look back at the list of scenarios above and ask myself: are there any of those I would like to play out? There are two to which I instantly say yes. One is the kidnap fantasy (of which I have written in my Jailbird fantasy series) and the second is a rape fantasy. Both these fantasies are something I would love to experience in a very real way. All the others would probably leave me in a laughing fit. If I would have to play Teacher – Student or Escort – Client with Master T, I just know I will have the giggles. I will not be able to be serious about it.

Something that my eye immediately feel upon when I saw the second list of scenarios, is “Hospital fantasies”. That is something I have had since quite a young age. How old I was when I first started fantasizing about being in the hospital and being cared for by either a doctor or a nurse, I don’t know. Those fantasies were never really sexual, but all about dominance. I wanted to be in the hospital bed and I wanted to be told what to do. Many times I have fantasized that I have been told to lie perfectly still, on my back, the sheets straightened around me and my arms alongside my body, above the sheets. Many nights I fell asleep like that. It was all about being told what to do, to be without will, to have others make decisions for me. I have fantasized about this many years, possibly from as early as the age of 9 until close to my 20th year. Would I still want to play out a hospital fantasy? Yes, I think I would. However, I would want it much kinkier than only being in bed, lying still.

The only way I will ever get to play out any of these fantasies is when Master T makes them possible. Just like He makes it possible for us to have playdates. If it was not for Him, I would not have been able to experience so many things that I have experienced in the last two years. And I suspect that I will experience a lot more in the times to come. Up to then, I will enjoy those moments when Master T gets that look in His eyes which instantly changes Him into my strict Master and have me submitting to Him without question.

© Rebel’s Notes

12 thoughts on “Roleplay

  1. We feel similarly about our “role” as a submissive. It’s not a role I play, it is who I am. But I have realized in reading all the posts that we DO do a bit of role play: pony play, Boss/secretary. But scripted roles? Not so much.

    1. Maybe there is a bit of unconscious roleplay in all our relationships? And then I do not mean the submissive part of us, but in the things we do. Something to ponder…

  2. I got stuck on your comment about getting the giggles trying to play some of these roles – I have the same view and it is even somewhat of an anxiety! I actually like the idea of some role play, but I know I would laugh and ruin it!

    1. I read another post about roleplay and there it said that laughing and having the giggles actually enhanced the moment. Maybe we should just ‘loosen up’ and do it? Nah… don’t think I would be able to. It’s just not me 😉

  3. Very insightful look at the whole idea of role play. While personally role play has never held much attraction you actually gave me a bit of a new perspective on it from the standpoint of how role play might be used to enact some fantasies that we generally don’t associate with role play. Lovely post you as usual. Thank you.

    1. Thank you for your very kind comment and always happy to know my words are read and give others a new perspective 🙂

  4. I never thought of it, but I suppose someone people do DO D/s as a role play. I’m a natural submissive, like you are, so I’ve never seen it as a role play thing. You opened my horizon on how OTHERS might view things with your post. Thanks!

    1. You’re welcome. I always try to stay openminded about the relationships of others. Just like there are so many kinds of vanilla relationships, I think there are just as many different kinds of D/s relationships too. xox

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