Blindfolds

The subject for this week’s Kink of the week is blindfolds. I want to start with a quote from Jade:

Someone once described the use of blindfolds to me as “BDSM-lite” and claimed that since everyone has tried them at least once, he doesn’t even really classify them as “kinky” play. Would you agree with that? Why or why not?

I can see how someone could think that blindfolds should be classified as BDSM-lite, but I do not agree with this. If you look only at a blindfold, then yes, that can be classified as ‘lite’. However, a blindfold is not used as a standalone item, unless of course you use it while you sleep. A blindfold, in my opinion, is used to make the sub/slave aware of only one thing: her Dominant/Master. It intensifies the dynamic between them.

The blindfold we are still using is quite a basic one. It has an elastic band and thin, almost slippery piece of cloth that covers my eyes. The part that covers my eyes is actually a bit too big, which makes it slip down some and even though it’s thin, it tends to block my nose. I don’t like this. We need a new blindfold, but this is something I do not want to order online. I would much rather go to an erotic shop with Master T and choose a proper blindfold by fitting it and feeling the material.

There are quite a number of different blindfolds out there: a leather blindfolds that are lined with fleece or fur, satin blindfolds, blindfolds with elastic or blindfolds with Velcro closures. Some people prefer a full face mask or even an upper face mask to a blindfold, but I would totally panic if I had to wear one of those. I feel very panicked when my nose is covered. I have to be able to breathe freely. This is one of the reasons why I want to replace the blindfold that we have now.

The last time we had a playdate with Master R and Dena (more to follow on this soon) we were both blindfolded almost all evening. Evaluating the evening in my own mind and writing about my experiences that evening, I realized that I loved to be blindfolded.

Why?

Blindfolded

I am the kind of person who wants everyone to have a nice time. I am very susceptible to the vibe around me and always keep an eye on everyone. If I see the expression on someone’s face and interpret it as unhappy or sad or concerned, I want to act on it. I want to make it better. During a playdate I cannot act on it, but it does occupy my mind. And when it occupies my mind, it takes away a tiny bit of the pleasure I could feel.

Being blindfolded means I cannot see what is going on around me. I can only feel and hear. Nothing around me can distract me from what is happening to me. This is exactly what happened to me at the last playdate. Since I could not see, but had to concentrate on my senses, the whipping, the spanking, the pain, the pleasure – all of it felt more intense. It was so intense and I was so focused that I went deeper into subspace than I have ever been before.

Analyzing those feelings after the playdate, I was positive about it: I love to be blindfolded and experience all those feelings so intensely.

Would I want to be blindfolded in every session? I seriously don’t know. Of course, this is not for me to decide. Sometimes Master T wants me to see what is happening and there are times I really like to see what He is doing. Other times I wish I could be blindfolded. Can I ask for it? Yes, of course I can. Will my wish be granted? That depends on Master T.

I think with this – being blindfolded – the same careful balance should be kept as with anything else. If you do the same thing everytime, over and over again, it becomes boring and less exciting. You get used to it and the ‘magic’ disappears. I am not good at keeping this balance, but Master T is. I guess I will just leave it to Him to decide.

One thing I will do? Ask Him if we can go shopping for a proper blindfold soon!

© Rebel’s Notes

Kink of the Week

18 thoughts on “Blindfolds

  1. We too have a shitty blindfold. As a matter of fact, Rob broke the strap the other day, pulling it off me. I think I would like a fur one, for the thickness. But I digress.
    I love your description of yourself here, including your desire, to the point of distraction, to ensure everyone is enjoying themselves. Honestly, that is so endearing, and although I don’t know you I completely believe you are exactly like that!
    I can’t relate to that in the same way (watching others faces during play), since we have not had playdates for one thing, but I definitely relate to the desire to remove distractions so you can enjoy the moment yourself, and I think this is very difficult to do in some cases. My distractions are more noise related, but reading your post makes me convinced I should give blindfolds another try to see if they intensify anything for me! Or him for that matter!
    I really enjoyed reading this!

    1. Thank you so much, Morgan, for your very kind comment. You might indeed want to try the blindfold again and maybe, if you do not want to be distracted by noise, you might want to try some earplugs too 😉

      Rebel xox

  2. I so agree with you (and most of the other entries in this meme): BDSM-lite? I think not. They are a tool like any other, it’s how you use them that makes them good. 🙂

  3. I adore the thought and the image as well. Might I recommend “the mindfold”? There is no need to tie anything and it really shuts out all light.

  4. Like they say, a picture is worth a thousand words. As much as I enjoy reading your insightful posts the fabulous images you use to illustrate them always make your contributions a cut above. I couldn’t agree more with your take on how blindfolds impact a scene. Very well put.

  5. I quite agree with your thought process here!

    We simply use a scarf that we double over and tie in the back… not sure that a commercial one is needed here!

    ~Kazi xxx

  6. You are always so breath taking in your images! This one is no exception.

    I don’t think I would like being blindfolded every time. Sometimes the view is too wonderful to pass up!

    1. Thank you so much, luv! I agree, there are times that I want to see, but being blindfolded means I am not distracted by anything 🙂 xox

  7. We’ve bought several over the years, and I’ve not been happy with the quality we are finding at an erotic store. I may order one online, and may take Molly’s above suggestion on it.I also am very person centered, and it does ruin my pleasure to think that they are not getting theirs. With blindfolds, I can only focus on me – a powerful tool towards my own pleasure.

    1. I might order one online after all, since I have also followed Molly’s suggestion and saw a great one. Expensive, but much better than what we have now. I totally agree with you that a blindfold is quite a powerful toy!

      Rebel xox

  8. yet again we seem to be on similar wave lengths about this as we both started off looking at the same quote. Sometimes it is like reading my own thoughts when I come here….

    As for a good blindfold, we had a lovely one we bought from the Stockroom but it seems to have gone missing but I can recommend Leather Delights stuff, they are beautifully made. If they won’t ship to you and you want one let me know and maybe I can help out

    Mollyxxx

    1. I have exactly the same when I read your posts. I have now even, with this kink of the week, taught myself NOT to read your posts until after mine has been written and posted 😉

      I have checked both Stockroom and Leather Delights and I think I might have find something on Stockroom. Will check with Master T and if we have problems with shipping, will let you know. Thanks so much for the offer, luv!

      Rebel xox

  9. You’re so right; finding the right blindfold is a tricky business! Like you, I would not like my nose covered but some of the smaller options we’ve tried in the past have been quite flimsy/slippery. We’ve now got one with a wire insert to help hold it in place. A simple thing but it makes such a difference. Jane xxx

    1. A wire insert does sound like the solution. I would love to hold a blindfold in my hand before I purchase it, just to be sure that it’s better than the one we have now.

      Rebel xox

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