30 Days of Submission: Day 22

Continued from… Day 21

Can you feel submissive without a dominant partner? If so, how does your submission express itself? If not, how do you handle your submission or submissive feelings?

Since I am now in my first ever D/s relationship, it is quite difficult to answer the questions above. I can however try to imagine myself in a situation and then answer the questions from that point of view.

In my opinion someone with a submissive nature who are without a dominant partner can still feel submissive. Submission – just like love – is something you cannot turn on and off when it suits you. You are submissive or you are not. Yes, there might be specific situations in the life of a submissive where other things are more important and need more attention. Then the submissive feelings might be on a low burner, but it will never be entirely gone.

It must be very difficult for a submissive person to be able to express the feelings when they do not have a dominant partner. Of course they can be in a relationship where the partner is not dominant, but the submissive can also be single. I think in both cases it will always feel as if something is missing. Ignoring the submissive feelings entirely will be like ignoring an essential part of you. I can imagine a submissive being frustrated because there is no outlet for the feelings inside, no dominant to be served.

Somehow I think that submissive feelings can be pushed to the background for some time, but definitely not forever. Eventually a submissive will go out and look for a dominant partner. Consciously or sub-consciously.

As said in the beginning of this post, this is just my opinion. I cannot speak from experience at all. Yes, my submissive feelings have always been part of me, but because real life demanded all my attention, I never even thought, let alone explored the feelings inside me. It was only under the loving and patient guidance of Master T. that I at last was brought to the point where I was ready to admit my submissive feelings. In the years before we committed to our D/s relationship, I have never ‘missed’ feeling submissive because I had simply not yet had a name for those feelings that I had locked away so many years ago.

To be continued… Day 23

© Rebel’s Notes

2 thoughts on “30 Days of Submission: Day 22

  1. I just noticed you were doing this. I may be stealing it. 😉

    I also agree that eventually a submissive person will seek out a dominant one if they realize what they’re doing or no. Been there, done that. lol

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