Question: Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand
Again I want to start off by saying that I respect everyone for the way they live their lives and the choices they have made. I have no critique at all on anyone!
Still, there are things in kink/bdsm that I do not understand or am curious about.
First of all: 24/7 D/s relationships. I really wonder how people can do that. How can one be in such a relationship day in, day out? Do people in a 24/7 relationship not have to work? How do the Dom(me) keep tabs on his sub IF he/she has to work? I guess a 24/7 relationship can work if you really want to, but my thinking is that you will have to be quite a juggler to have both a 24/7 relationship and a normal life with work, kids and family. This really is something I am very curious about, and which I have also written about in Day 14 of the 30 days of kink.
I wonder, is there anyone out there who lives a 24/7 D/s relationship and care to tell me how they manage to do it?
Other things I do not understand, but am curious about are pet play, breath play, needle play and any kind of body mutilation. Actually, I think I don’t understand either of them and the only one I am really curious about is pet play. In other words, I think about myself in a pet play situation, but don’t know what the real attraction is. Maybe someone can explain it to me?
For the other things mentioned, I think I am just a bit of a coward and therefore would not even think of trying it. And because I am such a coward, I am not curious about it either. The fear of choking or the fear of bleeding too much… those fears keep me from even trying any of those things. Also, I cannot even imagine me mutilating my body. It must have something to do with my perfectionism… broken skin is imperfect. But then again, I don’t mind if spanking or flogging leaves marks on my body…
(written on 25.08.2011)
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