Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand

Again I want to start off by saying that I respect everyone for the way they live their lives and the choices they have made. I have no critique at all on anyone!

Still, there are things in kink/bdsm that I do not understand or am curious about.

First of all: 24/7 D/s relationships. I really wonder how people can do that. How can one be in such a relationship day in, day out? Do people in a 24/7 relationship not have to work? How do the Dom(me) keep tabs on his sub IF he/she has to work? I guess a 24/7 relationship can work if you really want to, but my thinking is that you will have to be quite a juggler to have both a 24/7 relationship and a normal life with work, kids and family. This really is something I am very curious about, and which I have also written about in Day 14 of the 30 days of kink.
I wonder, is there anyone out there who lives a 24/7 D/s relationship and care to tell me how they manage to do it?

Other things I do not understand, but am curious about are pet play, breath play, needle play and any kind of body mutilation. Actually, I think I don’t understand either of them and the only one I am really curious about is pet play. In other words, I think about myself in a pet play situation, but don’t know what the real attraction is. Maybe someone can explain it to me?

For the other things mentioned, I think I am just a bit of a coward and therefore would not even think of trying it. And because I am such a coward, I am not curious about it either. The fear of choking or the fear of bleeding too much… those fears keep me from even trying any of those things. Also, I cannot even imagine me mutilating my body. It must have something to do with my perfectionism… broken skin is imperfect. But then again, I don’t mind if spanking or flogging leaves marks on my body…

(written on 25.08.2011)

© Rebel’s Notes

2 thoughts on “Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand

  1. I LOVE breath play, knife play and piercing. I used to be a cutter, and some how it morphed into getting turned on by it. Why? I dont know. But Ive never orgasmed as strong or wet as I do when my mans hand is on my throat.

    As for pet play, I dont think its for me, although Ive never tried it.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this:

By continuing to use the site, you agree to the use of cookies. more information

The cookie settings on this website are set to "allow cookies" to give you the best browsing experience possible. If you continue to use this website without changing your cookie settings or you click "Accept" below then you are consenting to this. Please also ready the Privacy Policy