For this year’s A-Z Challenge I decided to focus on things that I have come across during our 5 years of active kink, and share my experiences and things I have learned, my opinion or things I am curious about. In each post I am using an image that has been used on my blog before, with a link to the original post.
Continued from… K is for Kink & More
When you start a new BDSM relationship, limits are something you should talk about. When you are in a BDSM relationship, limits are something you should talk about. We all have our limits – the things you can and want to handle and the things you don’t want to engage in at all. There’s a black and white area to that, but also a grey area, as there are things that you might be curious about, but don’t know whether you want to or don’t want to try them. When we started our D/s relationship we have spoken about limits, had decided on our do’s and don’ts. We still talk about limits, sometimes at length and sometimes just mentioning it in any other kind of normal conversation.
If you want to talk about limits, but have no idea where to start, a BDSM checklist is a great place to start. Absolutely anything and everything that can happen in a kink relationship is listed in the checklist. Work through the different kinks and decide: yes, no or maybe.
It’s important to discuss limits. You cannot expect your partner to read your mind!
The lash of a flogger. The strike of a cane. The slap on my buttock. Some of them I love, others I hate. I love it when it hurts. I hate it when it hurts. I adore the marks afterward and seeing exactly where a dragon tail has left its mark.
Counting lashes is something I frequently do – at least once a week. We have a date night every Sunday and then Master T uses the RVS cane (and sometimes the fiberglass one). I always have to count up to whatever number he decides on. Counting the lashes keeps me focused, more or less, depending on how long a flogging or caning has been going in. If it goes on for a longer period of time and I have to count, I might just forget to do it once I slip into a world of my own.
We are not into leather clothes at all. I love the look of it, as well as the smell of it, but I don’t want to wear it. I have never even owned a leather jacket as leather just does nothing for me. Master T would love to have leather pants, but he is very slender and would look like a caricature of himself if he wears them. He doesn’t have the build to do justice to the leather. As for me, I don’t like feeling restricted and because leather is normally somewhat thicker and rigid, I think it will restrict me too much. Okay, I know there are beautiful soft leather clothes, but being in the menopause and always flushed and feeling (too) hot, leather clothes will just never be my thing.
To be continued… M is for Masochism & More
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