You are in a D/s relationship with your life partner with whom you live in one house and… you have kids. You do not want to tell the kids (yet) about the nature of your relationship. Maybe you never want to tell them. You want to keep your relationship low profile, but, you cannot go without being dominated or dominating for too long. Most of the things you like and want to do make a noise and you know that will evoke questions from the kids. You can go to a hotel without the kids, but this is something most people cannot do every month. So how do you solve it? How do you practice ‘silent BDSM’?
This is something I asked myself some time ago… and these posts were born.
Continued from… Silence is golden (4/10)
In stead of blindfolds, hoods can be used. A hood does not only cover the eyes, but the full face. Some hoods have opening for the mouth and nose, others are entirely closed but made of a material that you can breathe through. I have never worn a hood and I hope I never have to, because I think I might freak out when I have the feeling my breathing is cut off.I panic when I lie face down and feel I cannot breathe freely, but then again, bedding is not made of material that you can breathe through.
A hood does not only turn a sub’s world to black, but also depersonalizes the sub as no face can be seen anymore. The idea of this intrigues me quite a bit, which might just get me curious enough to try a hood.
An ass hook or pussy hook is a steel hook that is slipped either into the sub’s pussy or anal opening and then tied in place with rope. The rope can be tied between the collar and the hook or between the hook and the bed. Tie the sub in such a position that when she moves, the rope will tighten and the hook will move inside her. Then, while tied like this, she can be fucked or fingered, which will cause her to move and the rope to tighten and… you get the idea.
Like cold, that was discussed earlier, hot is another sensation one can play around with. Instead of cooling a glass dildo, you can hold it under hot water until it’s nice and warm and then insert it where you want. Make sure no sensitive bits are burnt.
Other than this, there are certain balms and food that you can use for a burning sensation. Think about mustard, red pepper, toothpaste, tiger balsem, vicks vaporub, ginger (see figging), sambal. Tell the sub to masturbate with any of these substances rubbed on her clit. Her orgasms might just be a lot stronger. The sub can also be tasked to rub any of these substances on her clit and then to go do some chores in the house, or to go shopping.
Kneeling, just like crawling, lowers the sub to a level far below the Dominant and for me, it’s a position in which I wait to see what comes. It calms me and it excites me. Sometimes He tells me to kneel and wait for Him, and when at last He enters the room, He tells me that I can go to bed. Nothing happens. Other times He pulls me to my feet, using my nipples, pinches my nipples and fingers my pussy until I climax. Then, he allows me to go to bed. In the time that I am kneeling and waiting for Him, I Have no idea what will follow, what He will do. It focuses my attention on Him, on obeying Him, not only by kneeling, but also with whatever will follow.
You can tell your sub to kneel and wait. She can be free to look around her, or you can blindfold her. You can put clamps on her nipples for the duration of the wait or you can tie her hands behind her. Or let her kneel in a corner, or next to your chair while you are watching television.
(Please, when you play with knives, take all safety measures into consideration!)
A knife can be used to softly trace lines on a sub’s back, or down her legs, or arms, or over her tummy or breasts. Say you go to work on her back, just use the tip of the knife and draw lines from top to bottom, one next to the other. Then go back to the first line and repeat. Over and over again. Eventually, even if you do not press down on the knife, the skin will show red lines and the sub will feel a burning sensation. The more you repeat this, the more sensitive the skin will get and depending on the pain tolerance of the sub, she might be squirming.
Master T found a fake swiss army knife in a drawer, but the blade is blunt. He has used this several times for knife play, and even though I knew the blade was blunt, I was afraid that He might eventually cut me too deep. Yes, He cut me, but He also perfectly controlled the blade and had me squirming. And bleeding. I did not mind the blood, but I know not all subs like it.
To be continued… Silence is golden (6/10)
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