You are in a D/s relationship with your life partner with whom you live in one house and… you have kids. You do not want to tell the kids (yet) about the nature of your relationship. Maybe you never want to tell them. You want to keep your relationship low profile, but, you cannot go without being dominated or dominating for too long. Most of the things you like and want to do make a noise and you know that will evoke questions from the kids. You can go to a hotel without the kids, but this is something most people cannot do every month. So how do you solve it? How do you practice ‘silent BDSM’?
This is something I asked myself some time ago… and these posts were born.
Continued from… Silence is golden (3/10)
Use one feather or several to tickle your sub on her body. Tie your sub down so she cannot move and blindfold her to enhance the feeling. Or have her on her knees, her back turned to you and tickle her between the legs, using the feather. Tell her that she’s not allowed to move and if she does, she will be punished.
There are people that have a foot fetish, we don’t. But for those who have, some things you can do is to ask her to suck your toes or to wank you, using only her feet.
Feet comes in play over here, so to speak, when I sit at Master T’s feet. It makes me feel close to Him; it makes me feel like I am where I belong. And I especially love it when He puts His hand on my head. This makes me feel small and protected, content.
Figging is something I have tried after reading it for the first time, and the experience was really intense. Tell the sub to go to the shop, select an appropriate piece of ginger root, cut it in a butt plug and then insert it in her anus. This causes a burning sensation and extreme horniness. Determine how long she should keep the piece in and whether it should be changed for a fresh piece after some time. Tell her what she should do while the ginger is in her ass, such as frigging herself or fucking herself with a dildo. Ginger makes me incredibly wet, as if fluids are constantly oozing from my pussy.
Give your sub any task – cleaning, doing the dishes, ironing, a writing task – and tell her that she has to keep the ginger in until the task is done. This will definitely help her to focus on the task at hand and on her submission.
Not all people are into fisting, but if you are, you know what delicious feeling it can be. However, working towards getting a hand inside, can be a process in which a sub’s boundaries might shift. It’s something intimate you can share together, a process of learning, a process of growing. The Dominant takes possession of the sub’s body, claims it as His and in the process she gets wonderful orgasms. If allowed!
I have a love-hate relationship with a gag. When Master T puts a gag in my mouth, it immediately focuses me on my body, on myself. I try my best not to drool, but after several minutes I cannot stop it anymore. I go through several stages, two of which are shame and acceptance. Shame because I am drooling, acceptance that I am drooling. Not being able to talk, eventually my only attention goes out to Master T. Wearing the gag eventually calms me, makes me focus only on Him.
The gag can also be used in combination with other things mentioned here, such as a blindfold or rope. I tend to get panicky if I have the gag in and I have to lie on my back, afraid that I might choke in my saliva.
I cannot tell you how many times I have walked pass Master T to go out of the room or get into the room and suddenly saw the change in His eyes, felt His hand in my hair and Him pulling my head backward to look up at Him. Pulling my hair hurts. Kissing me at the same time does not make the pain go away, but it melts me, every time. Forcing me to my knees while pulling my hair? Yes! Pulling my hair in bed to get me to look at Him? Yes? Pulling my hair to pull my mouth of His cock? Yes? Pulling my hair is just one of those things that feed my need for pain, that lets me feel His control over me.
To be continued… Silence is golden (5/10)
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