You are in a D/s relationship with your life partner with whom you live in one house and… you have kids. You do not want to tell the kids (yet) about the nature of your relationship. Maybe you never want to tell them. You want to keep your relationship low profile, but, you cannot go without being dominated or dominating for too long. Most of the things you like and want to do make a noise and you know that will evoke questions from the kids. You can go to a hotel without the kids, but this is something most people cannot do every month. So how do you solve it? How do you practice ‘silent BDSM’?
This is something I asked myself some time ago… and these posts were born.
Continued from… Silence is golden (1/10)
Put your hand on her throat and tighten your grip. Push as hard as you think she can take, but try to cut off some of her air supply. The first time Master T did this to me there was the initial shock, but immediately I realized that it made me incredibly wet. It gives me a head rush when He steals my breath, when He controls my breathing. I feel like I am completely at His mercy, even though I know He would never cut my breath off for too long.
A butt plug can be worn without the fear that anyone else in any kind of setting will know. Only the sub and the Dominant will know about it. The sub can wear a butt plug to the shops, to the hairdresser, out on a walk, for a family visit or even for an entire night. It is advisable not to let your sub wear the plug for a full night when she has to work the day after, especially if she’s not used to wearing it. It can deprive her of some hours of sleep. Unless of course sleeping with the plug for a full night is used as punishment. A sub can also be required to wear the plug for specific hours every day or every week, like I have to do once a week when we go shopping. But, it’s nice when the plug comes into play more than only for those specific hours. You don’t want your sub to think you’ve lost interest, right?
There are so many different kinds of clamps out there. Start off with something that doesn’t hurt too much and then build up the pressure. Clamps can be used both on nipples and on labia. Combining the pain caused by the clamps with stimulation of the clitoris, is divine! Somehow when we do this, I seem to ‘convert’ the pain into pleasure, up to the point where I can climax only from having my nipples hurt. However, this does not always happen immediately. Sometimes it hurts like hell and I really have to make an effort to convert the pain, but sometimes it just seem to come naturally.
Consider the following for those rare moments when there are no children around, or when the Dominant goes out to work and the sub is home for a day:
- For a period of time (say 4 hours) let the sub wear the clamps for 15 minutes, then take it off for 15, then on for 15, etc. Taking the clamps off hurts a lot, even when done slowly and this enhances the experience.
- Task a sub to wear clamps during chores, like doing the dishes, ironing or even while executing a writing task. She will then only be allowed to take it off once the task is done.
Both these tasks and any variation thereof keep the sub focused, but not only that. It makes her aware of her body and they way she can handle pain.
Warning: Take all safety measures into account, so no tissue damage occurs.
Instead of just lightly scratching her back, why don’t you hold the sub tight and apply some pressure when you run your nails over her back and buttocks, or maybe even over her breasts or inner thighs? The first scratches will feel good, but soon there will be a slight burning sensation as the skin reddens. If she is into pain, this is a nice way to warm up and get her in the right head space. But, it’s also a nice way of inflicting pain with very little sound. Except when she is loud of course, but since both of you don’t want anyone else to hear, she will most probably be quiet(ish).
A word of warning: make sure your nails are clean, in case you scratch hard enough to break the skin. You don’t want to cause any kind of infection.
To be continued… Silence is golden (3/10)
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