Men in knickers

Two weeks ago I did a ‘kink of the week’ post on Lingerie and I received this comment:

Dear Rebel, referring to the question with which you start this post: what about MEN who like to WEAR lingerie…? As you know, that’s my cup of tea and as I discover more and more: by far I’m not the only one. It was only this week that I had a new insight. I always considered it ‘natural’ that only women, cd’s and tv’s wear women’s clothes and lingerie, wear jewelry and use make-up. But why should that be natural? When you take an unbiased look at men dressed up and made up like a woman – on the condition that it is done properly and tasteful – it really is for the better. When I look at myself for instance, I really appreciate my looks much more when I’m ‘dressed’. Not only because of the fetish and sexual impact of it, but absolutely also from easthetical view. My point is: I think we should stop considering lingerie, make-up etc. as belonging only to the female domain. It should be perfectly normal that man dress in (made to fit) lingerie and use make-up without being held for a sissy. I’m very interested in your opinion on this subject and in the opinion of your readers as well. In short; [1] Do you like dressed up men in general? and [2] Do you agree with me that it should by regarded as normal. I would really appreciate a HONEST answer… Have a very, very nice and kinky weekend!

My post started with this:

Are there even women out there who do not like lingerie? And are there even men out there who do not like to see women in beautiful lingerie?

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Clive’s pinks (used with permission)
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And yes, I can see where I have totally ignored to address a group of people that might be bigger than we know: men who like to wear lingerie. I know they are out there and I should have included them in my post, but I just did not give them any thought. Why? Because I naturally assumed that only women wear lingerie and men like to see women in lingerie. But, like Kinquie who left this comment and Clive, whom I adore, there are more men out there who like to wear lingerie and feel good to wear them.

I could have just answered Kinquie’s comment and let it be, but I decided to turn it int a new post and address his questions here. And, at the same time I would love for people to join in and give their views on these two questions, and Kinquie’s comment.

Question 1: Do you like dressed up men in general?
I love men in suits and I love men who are dressed neatly, even if only in denims and a T-shirt. But, I know this is not what is meant by this question. Do I like men who dress up as women? I cannot say that I don’t like them, because that will be a lie. If it’s done tastefully, like Kinquie mentioned in his comment, I do not have a problem with it. Yes, it will make me feel awkward for a couple of moments, because really, I do not see dressed up men daily, but, I will easily be able to look past the clothes and see the person behind it. This said, I have to add that the person behind it should act normal too, otherwise all he will cause is for me to feel uncomfortable and not be able to act normal in his presence.

Question 2: Do you agree with me that it should by regarded as normal?
I tend to want to ask: what is normal? But, I understand the question, which may also be read as: should it be accepted?
I will say what I have said on this blog many times before: I feel that there should be mutual respect for the way other choose to live, for their way of doing things, whether it has to do with their family life, their working life or their kinks. I try to live by that standard, but I know that in general people judge others. The majority of people would judge a man walking by in women’s clothes. The majority of people would not even try to understand it, let alone respect such a man for his choices. Will I judge such a man? Yes, I will… but only if he is obviously making a fool of himself by not being tastefully dressed or acting in a dramatic way.

I think that men who dress in women’s clothes in a tasteful manner and who act ‘normal’ are not even recognized as men in women’s clothes. It happened to me in Amsterdam, where we visited the Red Light District and I actually spoke to a woman , only to be told later that it was actually a man. Him acting perfectly normal and being very tastefully dressed had me able to see the person and have a proper conversation. This, in my opinion is how it should be.

I would love to hear your opinions, experiences and views on this, as would Kinquie!
Please comment… thank you!

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10 thoughts on “Men in knickers

  1. Tiggs says:

    I don’t think there should be judgement about how a man wears his clothes – as in aesthetically pleasing or not – whether he is dressed in clothing more typically worn by women or those typically worn by men. How it makes someone feel that is more important than whether ‘it looks good’. If he feels sexy in heels, In sequins or ‘passing’ for an ordinary woman, so what if that’s not a colour combo I would wear or not. Can you imagine the outrage if the kink community judged women? It’s a bit like ‘fat shaming’ or the reverse to place a predetermined standard on what is sexy or not. For sure some images turn you on more than others totally, can some ideas be more sexy to you than others? Totally. But doesn’t mean can judge those for not meeting your kink.

    I appreciate the comment about the ‘kink’ element being the transgression. And therefore resisting normal. I like that idea. But it is interesting what this says about society (not the commentators or wearers here per se) because perhaps then to dress as a woman is shameful? Women wear men’s clothes all the time and there is no drama because men/male/masculine are valued more in society. So this reminds me of the equality campaign called ‘men in skirts’.

  2. It’s not my thing, but I loved the guy at Erotica in October at the bar.
    Blazer. White shirt. Tie. Smart.
    And then I looked down
    Knickers. Stockings. High-heels.
    Made me giggle! πŸ˜‰

  3. I actually do like seeing men in panties and that photo is quite a sexy shot. Thanks for sharing Clive! I really like the look of your skin, the pink frills and the sand.

  4. My man loves to wear lingerie. He likes the feel of it on his skin, he likes the naughtiness that wearing what is seen as “women’s” clothing brings. He sometimes wears my lace panties under his clothes when he goes out, he finds it sexually arousing.

    Why does he find it sexually arousing? It is because it can be perceived as being “wrong” for a man to be wearing women’s undergarments, especially the sexy lace type.

    Now for others they like to wear women’s clothes for other reasons.

    Some may feel that they were born with the wrong body and feel that they should be female rather than male and they wish to appear genuinely female, which of course is perfectly understandible!

    Others like to cross-dress because although male they sometimes like to dress in a female way. They may or may not wish to appear totally genuine. Again this is something that I personally have no problem with.

    I have had contact with people in all of the above areas. I have also come into contact and had sexual encounters with pre-op transsexuals, TV’s etc. they all have their reasons for doing what they do and why.

    It is an interesting subject to debate and discuss all people have their views and ideas about it. I will be interested to see what others have to say about it.

    ~Mia~ xx

  5. LOL – now I am really going to throw this blossoming debate into complete confusion!!
    1. I can’t help but feel it is ridiculous seeing a bloke dressed up in women’s clothing (even if it is just lingerie/knickers)
    2. I don’t agree that it should be considered normal!!

    You see, if it was considered normal and accepted for blokes to wear women’s knickers they would cease to have any appeal for me. After all, I would no longer get that delicious feeling of daring naughtiness or enjoy the undercurrents of secret humiliation that I always experience in my pinks. It would no longer make me smile and giggle at the ridiculousness of it.

    After all, if it was considered normal for blokes to wear pink knickers it would no longer feel KINKY πŸ™

    Whoops – I think I was supposed to agree with Kinque!
    πŸ™‚

  6. jayjay says:

    as a wearer and lover of lingerie i would comment that the realms of normality can only be changed by the social setting one moves in. I attend kink parties here in London (kinky salon) ect and i have a friendship group that have fully accepted my dressing to the extent that people very rarely comment ( which in itself defeats the object of wearing) This touches on another aspect which is that wearing lingerie is also to do with exhibitionism. Women generally do not wear lingerie in public but in the privacy of their home and boudoir…so its not ‘normal’ to see women in public in lingerie. When i wear lingerie underneath a sharp suit I walk around as horny as hell. The same as at parties that have a sexual theme…..I do not want men wearing lingerie as being seen as ‘normal’ and so common place as the sexual charge will be lost to both the viewer and wearer. jayjay xhugsx

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