When you see the word roleplay, you might think of actors in a play, but when you add kink to the same line, actors in a play will obviously be the last thing you think of!
Sexual roleplay, according to Wikipedia, is roleplay that has a strong erotic element. It may involve two or more people who act out roles in a sexual fantasy and may be a form of foreplay and be sexually arousing. Many people regard sexual roleplay as a means of overcoming sexual inhibitions. It may take place in the real world, or via an internet forum, chat-room, or email–allowing for physically impossible erotic interests to be enacted.
Wikipedia continues: Many of the most common sexual roleplays involve a power differential and form part of the dominance and submission aspect of BDSM. Roles can be general designations of power positions, or very specific, detailed fantasies. Some people, such as those living the Gorean lifestyle make use of an entire imaginary world. The controlling player is often called the top or dominant while the controlled individual is called the bottom or submissive. It can be considered dangerous and therefore a safeword is advised to continue the safety of other(s) in such acts.
Scenarios that can be played out, include:
* Teacher – Student
* Slave – Master
* Plumber- Housewife
* Photographer – Model
* Escort – Client
* Doctor – Nurse
* Stripper – Client
* Fireman – Trapped person
* Executive – Secretary
* Nurse – Patient
* Torturer – Captive prisoner
* Authority figure – Misbehaving Adult
* Owner – Inanimate object
* Kidnapped fantasy
* Goddess worship
* Hospital fantasies
* Uniform fetish
* Rape fantasy
* Prison fetish
So which roles do we play when we engage in play?
None at all!
Master T is the dominant, I am the submissive, but those are not roles. Those define who we are. Dominance is part of His personality as submissiveness is part of mine. Yes, when we have a playdate, these character traits are more prominent than when we sit on the couch, watching a movie. But those same character traits that are prominent during a playdate, can become prominent while we sit on the couch, watching a movie. To us they are not roles, they are who we are.
With that said, I look back at the list of scenarios above and ask myself: are there any of those I would like to play out? There are two to which I instantly say yes. One is the kidnap fantasy (of which I have written in my Jailbird fantasy series) and the second is a rape fantasy. Both these fantasies are something I would love to experience in a very real way. All the others would probably leave me in a laughing fit. If I would have to play Teacher – Student or Escort – Client with Master T, I just know I will have the giggles. I will not be able to be serious about it.
Something that my eye immediately feel upon when I saw the second list of scenarios, is “Hospital fantasies”. That is something I have had since quite a young age. How old I was when I first started fantasizing about being in the hospital and being cared for by either a doctor or a nurse, I don’t know. Those fantasies were never really sexual, but all about dominance. I wanted to be in the hospital bed and I wanted to be told what to do. Many times I have fantasized that I have been told to lie perfectly still, on my back, the sheets straightened around me and my arms alongside my body, above the sheets. Many nights I fell asleep like that. It was all about being told what to do, to be without will, to have others make decisions for me. I have fantasized about this many years, possibly from as early as the age of 9 until close to my 20th year. Would I still want to play out a hospital fantasy? Yes, I think I would. However, I would want it much kinkier than only being in bed, lying still 😉
The only way I will ever get to play out any of these fantasies is when Master T makes them possible. Just like He makes it possible for us to have playdates. If it was not for Him, I would not have been able to experience so many things that I have experienced in the last two years. And I suspect that I will experience a lot more in the times to come. Up to then, I will enjoy those moments when Master T gets that look in His eyes which instantly changes Him into my strict Master and have me submitting to Him without question.
© Rebel’s Notes