The subject for this week’s Kink of the week is blindfolds. I want to start with a quote from Jade:
Someone once described the use of blindfolds to me as “BDSM-lite” and claimed that since everyone has tried them at least once, he doesn’t even really classify them as “kinky” play. Would you agree with that? Why or why not?
I can see how someone could think that blindfolds should be classified as BDSM-lite, but I do not agree with this. If you look only at a blindfold, then yes, that can be classified as ‘lite’. However, a blindfold is not used as a standalone item, unless of course you use it while you sleep. A blindfold, in my opinion, is used to make the sub/slave aware of only one thing: her Dominant/Master. It intensifies the dynamic between them.
The blindfold we are still using is quite a basic one. It has an elastic band and thin, almost slippery piece of cloth that covers my eyes. The part that covers my eyes is actually a bit too big, which makes it slip down some and even though it’s thin, it tends to block my nose. I don’t like this. We need a new blindfold, but this is something I do not want to order online. I would much rather go to an erotic shop with Master T and choose a proper blindfold by fitting it and feeling the material.
There are quite a number of different blindfolds out there: a leather blindfolds that are lined with fleece or fur, satin blindfolds, blindfolds with elastic or blindfolds with Velcro closures. Some people prefer a full face mask or even an upper face mask to a blindfold, but I would totally panic if I had to wear one of those. I feel very panicked when my nose is covered. I have to be able to breathe freely. This is one of the reasons why I want to replace the blindfold that we have now.
The last time we had a playdate with Master R and Dena (more to follow on this soon) we were both blindfolded almost all evening. Evaluating the evening in my own mind and writing about my experiences that evening, I realized that I loved to be blindfolded.
I am the kind of person who wants everyone to have a nice time. I am very susceptible to the vibe around me and always keep an eye on everyone. If I see the expression on someone’s face and interpret it as unhappy or sad or concerned, I want to act on it. I want to make it better. During a playdate I cannot act on it, but it does occupy my mind. And when it occupies my mind, it takes away a tiny bit of the pleasure I could feel.
Being blindfolded means I cannot see what is going on around me. I can only feel and hear. Nothing around me can distract me from what is happening to me. This is exactly what happened to me at the last playdate. Since I could not see, but had to concentrate on my senses, the whipping, the spanking, the pain, the pleasure – all of it felt more intense. It was so intense and I was so focused that I went deeper into subspace than I have ever been before.
Analyzing those feelings after the playdate, I was positive about it: I love to be blindfolded and experience all those feelings so intensely.
Would I want to be blindfolded in every session? I seriously don’t know. Of course, this is not for me to decide. Sometimes Master T wants me to see what is happening and there are times I really like to see what He is doing. Other times I wish I could be blindfolded. Can I ask for it? Yes, of course I can. Will my wish be granted? That depends on Master T.
I think with this – being blindfolded – the same careful balance should be kept as with anything else. If you do the same thing everytime, over and over again, it becomes boring and less exciting. You get used to it and the ‘magic’ disappears. I am not good at keeping this balance, but Master T is. I guess I will just leave it to Him to decide.
One thing I will do? Ask Him if we can go shopping for a proper blindfold soon!
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