30 Days of Submission: Day 26

Continued from… Day 25

What are the qualities you seek in a dominant partner and why? Are some qualities deal-breakers as in “must” haves or “must not” have?

I was never really seeking for a dominant partner. Not consciously, that is. Subconsciously I might always have been looking for a dominant partner, but I never stopped to think about it. It was never something I thought to be missing in my life. Life just seemed to happen, the same way our relationship developed towards a D/s relationship. Therefore I have also never identified the qualities that I would seek in a dominant partner.

It’s only fair to look at the qualities that Master T. has as my dominant.

First of all, He totally accepts me the way I am and He does not only say that He does, but His actions speak of this too. His acceptance of me and my body with all its flaws (in my eyes) is very important to me, as I would otherwise have no confidence to be with Him at all. Him accepting me helps me to accept myself too and to try hard to see myself as the sexy woman that He frequently tells me I am.

Honesty is another quality in Master T. that I really appreciate. He will never lie to me, not even if He thinks it will make me feel better. The fact that there is absolutely no jealousy in our relationship make it a lot easier to be honest too!

Master T. has a much ‘calmer’ personality than I have. I am the one with a slight temper, or rather, the one in the relationship who goes through many emotions in the day. My feelings are deep, be it happiness, sadness or anger. Master T.’s personality is the perfect opposite of mine, which keeps me in balance.

He gives me structure and keeps me safe. He is kind and He is strict. He is fair and He is firm. He has a kinky mind and I think what I have seen in the almost two years of our D/s relationship might only be the tip of the iceberg of the things that He has in mind. I know I have to be patient and allow Him to lead me down this path of submission at His pace. That’s another one of His qualities: he will not be rushed.

I do not even want to think about deal-breakers. I know it can happen in any relationship, but the idea of Master T. doing anything that can end the relationship between us… Well… Uh… It’s just ridiculous. However, since I know that what happens in life can never be predicted, I think a big deal-breaker will be if Master T. would ignore one of my hard limits or cross one of my boundaries without listening to my feedback. Knowing Master T. the way I do, I cannot imagine that anything like this would ever happen.

Master T. treats me the way I like to be treated… as His wife, as His lover, as His friend, as His slut.

To be continued… Day 27

© Rebel’s Notes

2 thoughts on “30 Days of Submission: Day 26

  1. TheWinsomeGypsy says:

    All of these are great traits for a Dominant, Rebel! Honesty is most important to me. And it is beautiful that your Master is honest, loving, caring, and supportive of you while being strict, calm, and a good leader. Sounds like a perfect balance!

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