30 Days of Submission: Day 19

Continued from… Day 18

How socially connected is your submission? Do you look for others to talk to about your submission for support or networking? Do you go to events or connect through another sort of social grouping either in person or online?

Back when I re-started my blog – about three months before we made the commitment to our D/s – I started reaching out to like-minded people online. I wanted to get in touch with other erotic bloggers. It was getting in touch with them and reading their blogs that gave me that last bit of confidence that I needed to admit to my Husband that I am submissive and wanted nothing more than to submit to Him. How that went can all be read in other posts on here.

I am in touch with others who I can talk to about my submission and I don’t think that I would be able to be without that anymore. It has become a support network, where I can talk with like-minded people about things that happened or about ideas that I have. I can ask for advice or just simply share something that happened. In the first year of our D/s relationship I have learned so much by reading the blogs of other submissives (and some Dominants) and I have been able to talk to people (mainly on twitter, sometimes in mail) and get advice on different matters.

There was only one thing that always was and still is a problem: distance! People with whom it clicked well were never in the same country as we are in. Or if they were, they were in the kind of relationship where they could not openly meet us because they had to hide their kinky sides from their other halves. We wanted to meet like-minded people and realized that twitter was not the right medium to do so.

Then we turned to Fetlife. We had an account there, but never actively used it. I heard about munches that some of my online friends in the USA were going to, so I searched to see whether there was anything like that in our country too. Unfortunately there were not much, but there were some. We have only been to two munches and we have met a nice couple through Fetlife, but unfortunately we were more serious about connecting than they were. And in the meantime we have met a wonderful couple with whom we already had a date.

Meeting people that are in the same kind of lifestyle that we are in is so liberating. There is no need to guard your words. You can talk about your relationship, your feelings, your desires. Being with like-minded people is wonderful!

To be continued… Day 20

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