Sex education – then & now

I received an e-mail from EdenFantasys in which I was informed of their theme for September: Sex Education. As the e-mail said: educated sex is the best kind of sex.

Reading that sentence immediately made me think of myself and the way I grew up. And at the same time – as many moms would probably do – I had to think about my kids. Nowadays children are much more knowledgeable about sex than I was at the same age. Our teen knows a lot more about condoms and safe sex than I knew when I was her age, some 30+ years ago. When I was a teen, teachers and parents just did not talk about sex. It was as if they thought that when they did not talk about it, it did not exist. Of course there were some parents who did educate their children about safe sex. This was mainly to prevent them from unwanted pregnancies. But generally speaking teens did not receive any kind of sex education back then and this resulted in quite a number of teen pregnancies.

In the times we live in now, teens get sex education in high school. They learn about where babies come from, about practicing safe sex to prevent pregnancies, but also they learn about sexual transmitted diseases and how to prevent them. Also, in the present time there are a lot more parents who find it important that their children know about the these ‘dangers’ of sex.

There are quite some interesting articles about sex education on the SexIs Social, a publication by EdenFantasys. Two of those articles have quite some interesting views in them. The articles are called Is High School Sex Ed Going Too Far Or Not Far Enough? and Sex Un-Educated. Follow the links and read the articles.

I am a mom and I have always been very open to my children, talking to them about sex, about teen pregnancies (I was a teen mom) and about how to practice safe sex. One thing that I have always made very clear to my kids is that they can come and talk to me about absolutely everything! I am proud to say that up to now they always did.

But I don’t want to talk about how to raise your kids and how to make them aware of what can happen when they have sex.

What I want to talk about is ‘my’ generation. People that were teenagers some 20 – 30 years ago and grew up the same way I did: without sex education in schools and with parents who totally avoided the subject of sex. How did you go about educating yourself? Was it trial and error? In hindsight, would you have preferred to have had some sex education or was discovering things for yourself better? Did you have moments in your adult life where you read or heard about something, you did not know what it was and you ended up feeling a bit foolish that you had no knowledge about it? I for one have never ever learned how to put a condom on a man. I have never tried either. The interactions I had where a man used a condom… well, I just left it to him to put it on himself.

Okay, so here you are in your adult life and you need some sex information. Either for yourself or because you now are a parent and your kids are asking you some difficult questions. What do you do? I google and I read as much as I can about it. I have done a lot of research on anal sex, for instance. Or on different kinds of sexual relationships. Or on different kinds of sex toys. Normally I just searched on google, but I have discovered that there is quite some information on EdenFantasys. They have their Sex Guides and Tips and the Guide to Materials, where you can read what materials are used in sex toys.

But I for one prefer the SexIs Magazine on EdenFantasys where you can search for what you are looking for. There are three main categories in which the articles are shown – Sex and Society, Sexual Health and Advice. Under each of these categories you find different sub-categories, harboring a lot of articles on different subjects, such as flogger shopping, how to choose and care for your sex toys, how to give a blow job, strip club etiquette, cyber sex and much, much more! If you don’t want to scroll through the articles, just submit a search on the site and you will find what you are looking for.

Even if you have had your sex education as a teen, there is no harm in educating yourself about whatever sex subject you need information on. Reading about the different opinions of sex toys, the different kinds of relationships out there, the different views on sex… all of that helps you to form a better understanding about it and to have a more educated opinion about the subject. You owe it to yourself. Educate yourself.

PS.: I would love to hear about your experiences with sex education.

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4 thoughts on “Sex education – then & now

  1. I grew up in a very sex positive house. I suppose I was quite fortunate. I had european parents, but I lived in the US. Yes, I had sex ed in high school, after my parents signed a permission slip allowing me to sit through it. I suppose it helped, but spending a few hours in a lecture isn’t enough in my opinion. I was always free to talk about sex with my mom and when I started having sex (yes, way too young at 16) my mom put me on birth control immediately. I grew up in house where my father had PlayBoy magazines. He never kept them hidden and I’d get caught looking at them, but never truly scolded. Just told I really shouldn’t be looking at them. I never slept around too much and had many steady boyfriends, but I wasn’t always good about using a condom. I trusted my bf’s to be clean. I got lucky that they were. But I was quite fortunate to grow up in a sex positive house. I know most are not as lucky as me.

    • I wish I could have talked about sex (and other things) as freely to my mom as you did. Maybe I would not have been a teen mom then (at 16). Seems like you had a very sex positive upbringing! Sounds great 🙂

  2. I was very lucky for a kid in the 70s that I was raised by an over educated, liberal, socially progressive artist = free with sexual knowledge in a time when most parents weren’t.

    • Indeed, sounds like you were very lucky! I know that my parents were more liberal than others (I found naked pics of my mom) but they were never open to their kids.

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