Continued from… Day 11
Do you include financial submission within the definition of your own submission and if yes, how does it manifest itself? If no, is there a particular reason why? Are you familiar with the concepts of financial submission? Do you have an opinion about financial submission in general?
Financial submission? First of all I wanted to be sure that I understood correctly what financial submission holds. In searching to find more information, I frequently came across the term ‘financial domination’ which in fact is nothing else than females (mostly) giving themselves out as Dommes and who are willing to dominate a male for money. Okay, to each his own, but to me, this was not what I thought financial submission must be. Then I found the website of a dominant male and where I do not agree with all that he has written, he did confirm my first understanding of the term ‘financial submission’.
Financial submission (in my own words) is when the dominant is the only one who decides about financial matters and the submissive has absolutely no say in it.
That is not the case in our relationship. Both Master T. and I have fulltime jobs and earn our ‘own’ money. Like so many married couples we have joint accounts. For many years, when I was a single parent, I had to do the financial part of things. Very early in our marriage I have given all control of the money matters to Master T. He handles all financial matters, but this does not mean that I do not have a say in money matters. I can give out money whenever I want to, depending on the amount of an item. The same goes for Master T. When either of us wants to buy something more expensive (or several small things that accumulates to a higher amount) we discuss it before we buy it.
This means that financial submission is in no way part of our D/s relationship, simply because it does not fit in our way of living. Our D/s relationship is confined to the bedroom. However, in the same breath I want to say that whenever we are in a shop together, I never take my purse from my bag. I let Master T. complete the transaction. Also, I tend to more or less ask permission before I buy something, no matter what the price of the item is. It’s not really a question that I pose to Master T. but more a way of seeking confirmation before I buy something. This has nothing to do with my submission, but is simply one of my characteristics.
I find it very easy that Master T. is the one who handles the finances, but I cannot imagine not being able to give out any money without His consent. Just the thought of being restricted like that, makes me feel a bit panicky. However, a small part of me can imagine that it must be wonderful not to have to think about finances at all.
I like the way financial things are arranged between Master T. and myself and I prefer to keep it that way.
To be continued… Day 13
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