30 Days of Submission: Day 11

Continued from… Day 10

Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission? How do you define service? What does it mean to you? If not, what is it about the concept of service that is not for you?

My first instinct was to say “yes, I include service as part of my submission” but then I read the rest of the questions. How do I define service? Service to me – and in our relationship – has nothing to do with doing everything for Master T. I have my domestic tasks, He has His. The laundry is my responsibility, the garden is His. We divide cooking dinner between the two of us – some days I do it, other days He does. Shortly, we are a modern married couple. Except when it comes to our sex life. At this moment, my service is limited to our intimate life. I say ‘at this moment’ as we never know what the future holds.

On Wikipedia I have found the following about service:

In human sexuality, Service-oriented is a term used in the BDSM community to refer relationship dynamic.

In a service-oriented relationship, the focus is on how the submissive can contribute resources to the dominant partner, provide for some of their needs or advance their goals. These relationships may or may not also include romantic feelings.

A common example of such a relationship would be one in which the submissive and dominant were romantically attracted and the submissive is collared to the dominant, indicating that they are “in service” to that dominant. The collar may well be predicated on certain performance levels or the usefulness of that submissive in specific areas. If those things were to change or dissipate the couple may remain romantically linked but often the collar will be removed.

For the submissive in such a relationship, the collar is seen as a status symbol signifying the approval and acknowledgement of a person they wish to serve. They often take great pleasure and pride in their status and relationship.

For the dominant, the benefits are practical as well as emotional. Many take great pleasure in being ‘served’ in this manner, and of course having the additional resources available is of immense utility.


I indeed wear my collar with great pleasure and pride and even when I am not wearing it and am totally involved in a non-sexual scene (like being at my work), I sometimes ‘feel’ the collar around my neck. This makes me feel happy and proud to be His. I would love to wear a permanent collar, maybe in the form of a special piece of jewelry.

As said earlier, my service to Master T. is on a sexual level. I am His to use in any way He wants to. I do not decide anything about how my body is used. He does. I will never masturbate when I am alone, unless He has told me to do so. If someone else touches my body, it is because He has given permission for it to happen. My body is His. I serve Him with my body… and my sexual mind.

To be continued… Day 12

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