Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

I know that there has been a question earlier in this series about things you do not understand regarding BDSM/link or things you are curious about. I specifically did not mention online BDSM play, since I knew this question was coming up.

And yes, indeed, when I started with these series of questions, I did not understand online BDSM play. My thoughts on it back then was this: When seeing ‘online BDSM play’, I undersant that what it means is having a Dom(me) and sub who have never met in real life, who have never been together in real life, but who are committed towards each other as Dom(me) and sub. Then the Dom(me) would give the sub assignments to do and the sub would report back by writing it on a blog or sending pics to the Dom(me). The first thing I then wonder about is how the Dom(me) would know that the sub really performed the tasks as desired? Yes, indeed, photos and sometimes videos are made. Of course, some assignments can easily be filmed and reported, but how do you report that you have worn a buttplug all day long? You cannot film yourself all day long, can you?

Now, months later, I have a better understanding of online BDSM play. I know that I am in the privileged position of being married to my Dom. In these months I have come to know the yearning a sub can have. Sometimes I have this inner urge that I want to be hurt, I want to be dominated. If you are a sub and you do not have a Dom(me) in real life, I can understand that the sub will settle for an online Dom(me). I believe that subs will perform all tasks that an online Dom(me) expects of them to the letter. Why? Because they want to. Because they need to. Because they crave it.

So yes, in the past couple of months I have come to understand online BDSM play more.

(written on 28.08.2011 – edited on 16.02.2012)

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