Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?

What I find the most difficult aspect of having a sexuality that involves BDSM/kink is the fact that one cannot talk about it openly. I am a very open person and love to talk about those things that are important to me. My sexuality is one of the things that define me. I have to be very careful what I say and to whom I say it, as many people might think that I am a freak for living a life where BDSM/kink is a big part of.

Sometimes I do talk about it. This makes for hilarious moments. I work in an office with two other women and sometimes we do have our naughty moments where we joke around about sex. One day during the lunch I told them that I was cuffed, clamped and flogged the evening before and that I could still feel the after-effects because of it. I did not laugh. I was dead serious. They all laughed and one even said that she did not believe me. This was but one of the moments that I told the truth and wasn’t believed. I even once said that I submit to my Husband, that He is the boss. Or that my Husband would allow me to have sex with other men, as long as He is present in the room. They just never believe me. As said, these are hilarious moments, but sometimes I would just love to talk about it openly. Or rather, for them to take me serious when I say it and not to think I am joking around.

Luckily I do have people in my life with whom I can talk. My best friend know about my lifestyle and I can openly discuss it with her. She does not think that I am a freak. And on twitter I am privileged to have a lot of beautiful people I can share my kinky side with.

(written on 22.08.2011)

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